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I'm sure i've said this before on other Non-Mol posts, don't be bulied in to agreeing to accepting a Non-Mol if you haven't done anythign worng and or can prove it.
also with regards to an Undertaking.....it is just you agreeing to the court to appease the other part that you won't do something or will comply with something....
I would have thought if your solicitor says its wishy washy reasons for ordering a Non-Mol then with proof and evidence to back you up that you they should get the Non-Mol discharged. and you make an undertaking to court (that's still somethign i disagree with but see partly a reason for it)
The thing that bugs me most is....why would you have to agree to take an undertaking in court to say that you will comply or won't do anything outlined if... 1. you've never done anything wrong or not complied before, and 2. you've no intention of doing said things or not complying etc....
All it is, is so that the other party can "feel better" that you are bound by an agreement.
It must be your decision, if you feel that accepting it would aid your position. However, I would stipulate that any new undertaking should not limit your ability to have a relationship with your children, or impede your visits to your infirm mother.
It's highly unlikely that costs would be involved.
If pushed to make an undertaking to the court ask that your ex do the same, afterall....what's good for one has to be good for the other!
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