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Need some advice, on 10th July I was served an ex parte NMO court date 7th Aug.
Bit of back story married June 2010 separated July 2013. One son.
I separated due to her constant cheating and escorting. Feb 2012 I came home from work and she told me she had an affair and was pregnant, she planned an abortion and it was booked for the following week. I flipped, raged then calmed down, chose to support her as she said she was sorry and begged for me not to leave her. The night she came home from it I went to are room after putting son to bed, she slipped her phone under pillow as I came In, long and short of it I found out she was an escort and it was one her clients (guy in his 60s) she was on phone to I called him from her phone and warned him never to contact her again I now know where he lives and would tell his wife. Over the following year I found out a further 3 times (he was involved with her) to which 3rd time I left.
From end of 2014 to 2017 I had no contact with her but had contact with our son using third party ie sister for pick up and drop off. Early 2017 ex and I started talking again she has a partner she lives with by late 2017 we started sleeping together twice a week till May this year her partner had know idea,
by shear chance in june on my way to meet a friend for breakfast i seen her entering a hotel at 9am I thought odd as she had turned me down for breakfast that morning saying she was going to her mums, I followed in and seen her with and old man that I knew was her client. instead of creating a scene and also out of shock I sat down in reception 20mins later they went into lifts to a room, I left and went back at checkout time to see them leave the hotel 13.40 I took photos.
Next day I challenged her about it, she threw me out, I went straight to her clients house met his wife(withoutsayingtoher) and asked for him, he was round the back of his mansion house in the garden and took me to his summer house begged for me not to tell his wife and confessed it had never stopped except for 4 months in 2014 (due to heart attack), had been seeing her twice a week in her home and hotels paying her for [censored] and also other as he had been with. I recorded whole conversation on my phone told him I will not be telling his wife he should as someone else will most likely as I will be informing police and most certainly social services.
My ex the next day text me to cut contact with my son. I went straight to my son's social worker to report what I had found out and my concerns of my son's saftey and welfare refused to listen to audio as was pushed for time as I had not made an appointment, I was told he would speak with his manager advised me to speak with solicitor. I texted her partner telling him all and sent the pictures i took.
Next day I spoke with my solicitor who heard the audio advised me to go back to SS. next day i went to Sw again no appointment gave me 5mins and made appointment 5 days from then.
Went to police PPU day before appointment to submit a child protection disclosure application and was told that if SS were already informed SS would be investigating. Day of appointment Sw called to cancel appointment but asked how long I had sleeping with my ex I said two years, told me ex had admitted it was an affair with this old man. Again refused to hear audio.
4th July rang police asked for welfare check to be carried out on my son, 5th went to SS turned away as had no appointment made appointment for 10th, whilst there received call from officer who carried out welfare check was advised to go speak with SS.
10thjuly met with SSW who refused to listen to audio, said I have not raised concerns they were not already aware of.
That evening of 10th received call from police asking where i was as they had an NMO to serve on me (ex had put an old address on it from over a year ago) i collected it from the sation after hours (all stations close 7pm) thinking i would get all 4 documents to see what I was accused of (got one page the order on which dates 7th August for court) and was told to F##k off by the officer when I asked for the other docs.
11th went to police and made so much fuss until an officer heard the audio finally someone believes me and took a statement.
Today 27th have just received her "statement of truth" to the court for her application which is a total pack of lies. (Dv, stalking following taking photos, knowing her work pattern and her partners, scared to be in house on own, blackmail)
My question is do I get my day in court to fight this?
I have loads of evidence to prove her lies, I've text messages, recorded phone calls between her and myself to where she stated wanting sleep with me on our wedding anniversary two days before me finding out her secret, audio of her clients confession.
Does the judge hear all this on the 7th or is it undertakings or is it adjourned for several weeks?
I feel I've been made out to be the liar, perpetrator.
Social have refused to engage with me fully and police to a point don't care please advise.
Sorry for long post thought best to give as much info for right advice.
Hello Dalton5150,
A distressing situation. You give a good insight as to yours and Ex's lives. However, you make no mention of your Son's life and who looks after him when both you and your Ex are occupied with other things. Also you do not mention the concerns you have with regard to your Son's safety and welfare albeit you wish to submit a child protection disclosure application.
hi,
your NMO paper gave you a court date. So you can go on that date to challenge all that. no offence but i dont think the courts will care if a woman is a slag. looks like it may not go so well for you, as all the pictures,videos,recordings you took, will be used as evidence of you stalking, harrassing/intimidating & disrupting her life. you should hire a good barrister/solicitor for your court date.
My son is 9 he lives with his mother and was at school while we were occupied. The concerns I have is that my ex has been prostituting from the home while my son was in the home asleep, this was confessed by the client I spoke to. If her partner was aware if it and permitted it I submitted the cpd with him as the subject.
Thanks Bill, the pictures i took where of her at hotel with her client the recordings were of her client confessing and a phone call from him not be next day giving more in depth details of her working as an escort from her home, this has been reported to police and he is facing criminal charges. The NMO is her way of trying to discredit me.
I share the views other's have expressed here, reading your first post one gets the impression that this is more about getting back at the ex rather than concern for the safety of your child. Don't get me wrong, I am sure you are genuinely concerned about the safety of your child, but that's not what comes across.
Ultimately, as bad as your ex may be, the courts won't rule in your favour unless you are able to put forward a better alternative.
Your case is pretty complicated. Consider seeking support at https://www.dadsunltd.org.uk/contact/ .
My worry and concerns is this, the client has confirmed he is not her only client that there are others using website adultwork.com, she has doing it from her home while my son is in the home, she is putting our son at risk (it only takes that one client to be violent) social services are not taking it seriously as she has made out im lying and police are now telling me that social are doing a child protection investigation along side their criminal investigation but talking to the social worker he is not doing so, he is believing her lies (she denies working from home), proving her lies in court would help social start to believe me. Not one shred of her "statement of truth" is true.
If you are intending to use the fact that she was cheating on you, I would be very wary - you have admitted that you were sleeping with her while she had another partner, so you are condoning by your actions the very behaviour you are condemning - if you try to use this, it could well backfire on you.
I have no intention of claiming she was cheating on me, I intend to prove she has been prostituting from the home while the child was in the house. Social services have taken her assurances that she is not and not liased with police under joint protocols due to believing her. I have informed SW of all the evidence to back up my "allegations" but they are refusing to engage with me due to the NMO seems when it comes to NMOs it's guilty till proven innocent.
Is she able on the 7th to retract her application?
sounds like court hearing will be all about the rights of [censored] workers lol. i somehow doubt the court will take this so seriously and take drastic action.
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