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Hi all, since the court date dropped through ex's door she has gone all nice on me , one of the kids now want over night stays and she want mediation now ,
big change,
how will this affect the first hearing????
She''l be crapping it and hoping you sack the courts off, stick to your guns the court will probs ask you to attend mediation again anyway so just hold your ground and see how the cookie crumbles and if she is prepared to be reasonable then thats a bonus she will have to stick to it in court
The courts welcome any agreement that can be made between parents & you can attend mediation at any point during the proceedings. If you manage to reach agreement between yourselves or mediation, you can ask the court to draw up an order made by agreement so it is at least legally binding.
I agree with 1626, the more agreement that you can reach between yourselves the better it is going forward.
It sounds as though you haven't attended mediation so the court are quite likely to order it anyway...it is within their power. Reaching agreement will mean that the final hearing will be smooth and fairly amicable.
Good luck
Thanks for your reply.
We have tried mediation about 18 months ago. But I felt was not addressing the problems I have even after explaining my issues the mediator kept on same approach. So didn't continue.
Unfortunately, mediators are like everyone else - solicitors, barristers, MF's, Cafcass etc....they all vary wildly in how good they are at their jobs! My partner's mediator was very ineffectual / borderline useless but I know people who have had some fantastic ones....
If your ex is willing to go, maybe give it a shot? You might find she is more agreeable this time around and it will look good to the courts. Even if you can only agree on some of the issues, you can ask court to decide the rest?
You can put these things in your Position Statement for the first hearing if there is any progress? Are you self repping or using a solicitor?
self representing, problem with mediation is the distance 220 miles each way , its killer.
wish it hadn't taken this to start her being reasonable, maybe short lived tho.
fingers crossed will sort things out
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