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This is my first post. It's all becoming to much for me. So I'm coming to you guys for some advice.
So. In November 2013, I discovered my ex was a year deep into an affair. Her 4th affair in a 10 year period.
So naturally I left, but had to leave two children behind as well. One of which is a step child.
Since I left my I've got into a new relationship and we are going strong.
I have my children every other weekend. And have to drive 2 hours and 125 miles in each direction to pick them up.
We have a private maintenance agreement and pay more than I would through CSA.
I also have 2 regular monthly payments that go out for a bed. And a sofa that were bought when we were still together. And I let her keep. My gripe is that I make all these payments, and do all the travelling yet she still makes my life hard.
Her main focus at the moment is a £20 suitcase i used when i left.
But it's always something different. Always something else she wants.
Apparently everything we had together is hers!
I'm trying to avoid going through the courts as it's not healthy for the kids to see this.
She moved away and put the kids into a new school. I asked her to put me down as next of kin. She said no as I live to far away so she put down herself and the man she had the affair with (they're still togetger).
so I'm now moving closer so i can be a port of call if anything was to happen to the children.
I asked her again today to put me down as a next of kin. Again she said no.
All I want is to be able to be there for my children when ever I'm needed.
Is there any law that can help me out in anyway without going through the courts?
I've read about the PR order. And it's looking like an option. But that requires going to court!
Thanks in advance for any advice.
Hi there
Have you contacted the school about getting your name included, at least on your biological child's record? To get any kinds of official acknowledgement for your step child you would have to go to court I'm afraid.
If you were married to your ex you automatically have PR. If you werent married but your child was born after December 2003 and you are named on the birth certificate, then you have PR.
You could ask the school where they stand by including the name of her partner, who is not the bio father and doesn't have PR.
Apart from court action there's little more you can do to force her hand.
Thanks for the advice. I'll give the school a call and take things from there.
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