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My sons next court date is looming (July).
The previous order stated that he attends a DVPP course, which is still attending (2 modules attended - 3 modules to go).
Indirect contact to continue and mother to encourage the child to respond - My son has had NO response to any cards or gifts.
Since the last court date, my grandson has been allowed to see us (Grandparents) a few hours at the weekend, as and when it suits the mother. We have jumped through hoops and dropped any plans and accepted any contact when offered, however short the notice given.
My son has now not had ANY contact with his son for 21 months and is feeling very deflated.
My Grandson calls the EX new partner DAD and doesn't know my son is his dad. All evidence of my son ever being in his life has been removed. The ex does not talk about my son to my grandson
One of the rules to us seeing my grandson is that we do not mention my son or show him pictures. We do not correct him when he calls Ex new partner dad/daddy. If she ever believes this is happening contact will be stopped immediately.
the next court hearing is a Directions Hearing.
What should we expect at the next hearing. - I don't feel very optimistic about this hearing, as believe nothing will change?
Should my son ask for supported contact - what are the chances seeing as we have had contact with him for 6 months now.
Has anyone here completed a DVPP - what was the outcome, did it make a difference to contact?
Hoping for the best but expecting.... it to drag on and on and on...!
Nanny.
hi nanny,
so your son is heading to a 2nd court hearing? is there anything else going on, like a section 7 report being done? i dont have experience of that dvpp course, but i am guessing the courts, may wait for your son to complete that course, then they will decide on child contact.
does your son have a barrister or solicitor representing him? really he should be fighting for contact with his child, and it should take priority over the grandparents seeing the child. even if he is to get 2 hours in a contact centre with the child every 1 or 2 weeks, its better than not seeing the child at all. in the meantime i suppose all you can do is try and be as supportive to your son as possible, and make sure he keeps away from ex and any other trouble makers associated with her.
Hi NK
I wish I could wave a magic wand sometimes! It’s been a real trial for you all, it’s hardly any wonder that he is feeling deflated.
Has there been any reports written up for the court, by the course organisers? Does the course finish before the next hearing, or after?
There are a couple of things your son should perhaps mention, the fact that he has had no response from the indirect contact, which concerns him, especially in light of the fact that on visits to you, you are instructed not to mention his name or refer to him in any way to the child, who now refers to her partner as Dad.
I think your son should be open to any offers of contact, there’s nothing wrong with asking for contact, or suggesting ways that it might work, supervision by you would seem the natural progression, but there’s no way of knowing how the hearing will go.
thanks Mojo.
The course has 3 more modules so will not finish until august/september. I believe they will write up a half way report, I will ask my son to ask the course management.
I was hoping that another member had been on the course and could give some insight as to what happened next?
My son will mention that he has had no response to the Indirect contact and that he would like to move forward to supported or supervised contact.
I was hoping that by now we might see light at the end of the tunnel, but seems we have a long way to go yet.
NK.
Hi Bill
this is his 5th Hearing. FF / S7 Done and all allegations found to be true by the court, hence the DVPP course.
Court ordered Indirect contact only with the understanding to move forward dependent on attendance/reports from the course.(i believe)...
no representation due to lack of funds.
The EX offered us a few hours contact at the beginning of the year which we thought long and hard before accepting, as was heartbreaking to see my grandson when my son could not. However we believe this will help his case and prove to the court that the EX trust us and we could become the supported/supervised contact when the time comes to offer contact to my son rather than a contact centre, hence the jumping through hoops and ignoring the bad attitude from the EX. My son has no contact with his EX and stays completely out of the way.
My son would accept any contact anywhere if he could just see his son for a few hours.
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