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New partner issue

 
(@obsession1)
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I have a child who is 12. They live with mum. I have them 1 night per week and every other weekend. Mum has a new partner who practically lives with her and I have no issues with the new partner.

We have a court order in place which states my time with my child. I have a partner who I have been with for over 12 months but I haven't introduced my child too. My ex partner knows my new partner and is being clever saying she will stop me having my child with my new partner. It's looking like I will have to go back to court. 

My new partner is fully respected has no issues and is horrified by it. I've got to do this at some time so I suppose I will need to put a emergency request to the court Nd they will laugh her off I presume. Any advice?

 

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Topic starter Posted : 03/07/2022 9:50 pm
(@dadmod2)
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hi, hope this situation can be sorted out without going to court. If you have to then I doubt they will accept an urgent/emergency application. Urgent is for serious issues, where child is at serious risk of harm, or about to be taken to another country for example.

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Posted : 04/07/2022 6:50 am
(@mrstrange)
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Tell her that in Cafcass's safeguarding letter that parents are sent ahead of the first interview, it is explicitly stated that a child has the right to a friendship with a new partner.

 

Your ex is exhibiting controlling and coercive behaviour. Taking your to court would be a waste of time as no judge will block you from introducing your child to your parent unless ord unsafe. In fact the mum would come across as a high conflict and obstructive ex.

 

You will be fine 🙂

 

Just keep a record of emails or messages sent from your ex.

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Posted : 04/07/2022 9:15 am
(@obsession1)
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Thank you for the replys.... so the ex partner has found out about the new one.... ive had 60 missed calls, several messages my child isn't going near xxxxxxxx load of lies spouted out and i am not seeing my child if with her etc etc. What is the best way to tackle this? police? court application any advice would be great. SHe has not stopped me picking my child up yet but that isn't for a few days yet but i think she will do. 

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Topic starter Posted : 14/07/2022 2:14 pm
(@mrstrange)
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@obsession1 

Screen shoot the missed calls logs. Save all her messages and stick to written communication. Be polite and don’t get rattled by her.  Let her cool down for a few days.

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Posted : 14/07/2022 8:45 pm
(@dadmod4)
Illustrious Member

As above, but you can't do much else at the moment until she witholds contact, at which point you need to consider mediation and then court options.

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Posted : 24/07/2022 12:30 pm
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