Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
I bought her some train tickets to get back to her hometown. Her family initially wanted nothing to do with her as its been quite sometime now providing a safety net to someone who falls down in her patterned co-dependent way. I mean they had a visit from the police after being accused of child abuse and all this other vile stuff that has come from the demons in her mind. She then tried to either section herself or take an overdose, they both happened. A determined cry for help as it took a number of weeks for her liver to be cleared enough to get medication for her mental problems. last week, She phoned and said she doesnt want to be a mother anymore. disturbing as ive had to fight for 4 years to see my son on any regular basis. I dont take it as gospel, shes down and out at the moment. i certainly wont tell her that my son son told me that he doesnt love her (hes 6) yesterday. I guess hes had a mother with no humour and incredibly self- absorbed, dark and neggy for the last few months in her deterioration. I guess hes gonna go through his own tunnel of processing this too. But he's ridiculously happy and content being with me.
Shes now in a mental hospital, no contact for a week. her family are sorting her house and stuff and being kept in the loop but are very much staying away and creating boundaries so that this wont affect them again.
Incidentally i talked to a corams legal advisor the other day and it was very good. He told me that with this situation as it is, i would not need to go to court right away to get a variation/new order. In fact, its going to be up to her to sue me for an enforcement and i will have to justify the breach. (Its a little more complicated than just going for a variation). With all the evidence now on record its clear the courts can be discretionary and reasonable about the use of my equal parental responsibility to have my son full time. There are many phone recordings which i can transcribe parts of and present as evidence to the court .
So that was nice that i could be patient and not have to deal with the trauma and conflict of court.
so eventually....being a good guy, being patient, being the bigger person (someone has to), never giving up, has worked out for Father and Son.
BE good.
Thankfully it has worked out for you, but more importantly for your little boy.
All the best
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.