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Wowzers trousers A lot has happened in the past week. The mother has been quite confusing with some of the things she's been saying she has shut her family out she is saying they are the mafia and also alleging of child sexual abuse historical allegations against her father. They are lovely people and upstanding members of the community her parents. It is very unlikely that this has happened giving she has siblings close in age that do not confirm anything like this. I had to go up last Friday to secure my son because she sounded very overwrought basically I believe she is paranoid and verging on schizophrenia she is definitely in a mental health crisis and is not in an optimal conditions to be looking after my son 6 year old. She agrees that he should stay with me for the time being. she has given one month's notice on her rent and plans to live down closer to me after moving 180 miles away last year! I have withdrawn him from school . and applied for a new school here the only problem is the child arrangements we have says the child lives with the mother. Her family believes it's best for him to live with me for the meantime however she has no money and no job and tried to voluntarily section herself 2 days ago. I don't trust that she won't be more hassle in the future demonizing me or anyone else and causing trouble so I do want to get legal things in place however is it enough for an emergency order? What the [censored] do I do?
hi,
your ex admits she has a problem and is ok with your child living with you for the time being. So I would not start any hostilities. You should try get her some help urgently. You try and have her referred for mental health issues. its quite a silly system. someone in my family had similar issues and I ended up calling the police on them, then the police referred them to mental/sectioning. if she starts causing trouble then I think you should take the legal route.
It’s impossible to say lukatic, are Children Services involved? Is she on medication, the fact that she failed to get sectioned, does that mean she doesn’t have any community support?
You could apply for an emergency PSO to prevent his removal from your care and a variation of the existing order to state that he lives with you. You would need to be able to show that she has serious mental health problems and had relinquished primary care of your child.
If as I suspect, she is undiagnosed, the next few months are likely to be hard on you all, until she can get the right help. Best of luck
Thanks. She went back to her home town but has already handed notice on her flat so will be homeless from 6th august. Shes talked about him going to a refuge womens shelter with her. I would not allow this as its still not suitable for a child especially as hes perfectly happy here. I want her to be a competant mother again. I want her to see him. I dont want vengence on the years of minimal contact she put me through. But i cant take her on as well. I've had no contact from her for 4 days since she left so will wait for the next shitstorm i guess.
Thanks.
... I wouldn’t feel bad about not taking her on, shes no longer your responsibility as such, although as the mother of your child, you wouldn’t want her to come to harm. Are her family helping her? Is she getting professional help?
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