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Hi,
I hope some one can help me with this. its all very complicated but i will try to explain.
I seperated from a long term relationship at the beginning of last year, and went through a stage of sleeping around alittle. I made the mistake of sleeping with a friend (who herself was spreading herself thin shall we say). And to keep a long story short she recently gave birth to a beautiful little girl. Now I was told by her other before she was born that I was the father. Now she is in a new relationship. And it appears unfortunalty he is very controling. I have been cut out copletely and she is was saying Im not the father and never was. This last week she was out in town and told a friend of mine that the little girl is mine and I have made any effort to see her. My friends know this to be false as they seen my messages online and via text. What I want is a paturnity test so that it can no longer be hearsay I want to prove that the child is my daughter so I can spend time with her.
I have also been informed that my (ex)friend has but her new partners name the my daughter birth certificate despite the fact that they didnt get together until she was heavily pregnant isn't that illegal? (fraud???).
Does anyone know if I can get a paturnity test paid for as i am currently out of work after being laid off and have no savings to pay for this service.Was told that CSA is the place to go but cant find any info online. Or is this covered by lega aid? I am desperate to see if I am truely the father and be apart of her life as i should be.
your hopefully
Hi,
Welcome to the site and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It's clearly distressing for you and it's something that needs to be resolved one way or another.
If your name doesn't appear on the birth certificate, then you won't have Parental Responsibility (PR) for this child. However you can apply to the court to recognise your PR. That said, as someone else's name may already appear on the birth certificate this is going to quite complicated and I am no expert on this subject.
I'm going to ask one of the other Dad's to comment as I feel they may have more experience in this area. Failing that, I'll ask our Legal Experts to drop by with some advice. Given that it's a bank holiday weekend they may not respond for several days, so keep popping back to see if they've replied.
FM '70
If you feel that the matter can't wait, then I would contact the Coram Children's Legal Centre directly. They offer free legal advice for anyone who doesn't currently have a solicitor and there's a link to their website at the foot of this page!
Thank you very much for your speedy reply.
I would love to hear from someone thats had a similar expierence and any advice from you legal advisors would be helpful.
obviously I would like to resolve this ASAP however I realises its going to take time and am prepared to wait it out I may speak to the people you suggested week after next as I am away for the week.
Hi
We've asked the CCLC to pop on and give advice, so hopefully there'll be some advice waiting for you when you get back
Dear s_rendall,
The child’s birth certificate should contain correct information; it may amount to fraud if the person named on the birth certificate as the father is not the father.
We would suggest you contact a local Child Law solicitor who provides legal aid. If you are eligible for legal aid they can deal with this issue for you. If you are not eligible for legal aid and you wanted to have a solicitor you would be required to pay privately.
Alternatively, you can contact the Child Support Agency on 0845133133 or make a court application by representing yourself. If you would like more detail on making this application please contact us directly.
If you have any further questions please contact us again via our webchat facility. The link to our webchat is http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com/index.php?page=web_chat.
Yours sincerely,
Coram Children’s Legal Centre
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