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In 2010 i moved down to devon to be with my partner who was pregnant and in jan 2013 i was contacted by csa advising my x had applied for it and so after my worring that i couldn't pay it as i was on low wage and me being told if i didnt pay it they would take it direct from my work and they take it before rent and bills i sent all my details to them and i kept chasing it up and was told to stop calling so i left it and only just last week end august received contact from them apologising for delay and it was there fault and now i was it areas of nearly £1000 but the monthly payment still hasnt been worked out but my x partner is married and has her own business but i was told that doesnt come into account but i still cant afford the payments what can i do as my x gave me option to sign over my rights as a father and not pay anything or get into debt with this and that would mess up my new family.
but now she has gone back on this and will only let me pay.
i have thought long and hard and need to look into signing my rights over but i dont know who as the internet says it is possible but i spoken to solicitor who advised not
Sorry to hear your in this predicament.
The issue of payments and rights to the kids are completely separate.
CSA payments are made by the non-resident parent irrespective of the other partner as both parents have a duty to look after their children.
Do you have written evidence of the apology cause I would be surprised about them admitting to a mistake?
On the issue of arrears, I was told by the CSA they can take no more than 40% of your salary in one hit so payments would be spread over a number of months if you cannot pay it in one go.
What is the contact with your child and what would you like?
BW
I don't believe it is possible to sign your parental rights over, and even if you could you would still be liable to pay child support....as Boycie says they are not connected. The only way to stop CSA liability is if the mother closes the case with the CSA or you become unemployed or a full time student.
I'll add to NJ's post - you would definitely still be liable for child maintenance, and even if your ex closes the case, she can re-open it. Don't under any circumstances sign away any rights to your child - it won't save you anything at all.
Go and see your MP asap - as the CSA have admitted it's their fault, they should not put you into extreme hardship in repaying the arrears. Your MP can raise a complaint with the CSA and get far more success than an individual is able to do.
hay thanks for that information i dont have any contact with my son i took it to court in January 2013 and i losses as i lived to far away i only wanted to see him on the school holidays but his mum fought me all the way and won i was made to feel like rubbish by the judge with the things he said my solicitor was no good and didn't help me at all.
i do want to see him but i am only allowed to see him if i went up to Yorkshire and i cant afford the cost of travel
Have you had contact with him in the past? I'm surprised your solicitor didn't at least push for indirect contact by phone, Skype, email and letter. it would have been better than no contact at all. I say don't give up! You can apply again and you will probably get a lot further if you represented yourself...there are lots of dads here that choose this route and with some success.
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