[Solved] NEED HELP!!!!

It might be worth giving the coram childrens legal centre a call - http://www.childrenslegalcentre.com to see what they suggest

Hi there

As you know her address I don't understand why the lawyers gave you the wrong advice!

You have a couple of options -

You can apply to the court for a declaration of parentage, in this way you would avoid having to attend mediation first. The court will set a date for a hearing and serve your ex with the court papers to inform her to attend. The court will then look at the facts and order a DNA test to be done. You would need form C63 to do this and it is possible to do it without a solicitor, we would do all we can to advise and support you if you decide to go it alone.

The fact that she dropped all contact with you before the birth and is continuing to ignore all requests could indicate that there are doubts you are the father, has this crossed your mind? Would you feel happier having confirmation of your parentage?

If you are 100% sure you are the father, no question, you would probably be better with the second option of mediation as the first step, this is compulsory before an application to court can be made anyway. Once you have attended mediation and discussed the situation with the mediator they will contact your ex and invite her to attend. If she ignores the request or refuses to attend, or mediation is unsuccessful the mediator will sign the form to enable you to apply to the court for Parental Responsibility and a Child Arrangements Order for contact. Here's a link to the mediation service

www.nfm.org.uk

If it goes to court, as you haven't been involved with your child there will be reports made to make sure there are no safeguarding issues and contact is likely to commence either supervised at a contact centre or supervised by a third party, usually a family member.

All the best

I'm 100% the father and I have proof to go with that, I also have a message from her lying to me saying that our baby had died. This was one of the worst things I ever had to go through as she said it when she was around 1/2 months from her due date and she messaged me about a week after saying that telling me that it wasn't true and my child was alive and well. The stress and heartache I have been through makes me wonder if I will ever get to see my baby as everyone I have tried to ask for help (lawyers ext) have told me without my childs information like dob ext that she won't give me I can't do anything. This has made things even worst and makes me feel helpless to do anything.

...as I said you don't need to know your child's DOB as long as you have their address then you can make an application, but not before you have attempted to sort it out with mediation first.

Follow the link to the mediation services I gave you in my earlier post and find a mediator in your area, make an appointment and go along and discuss your situation and what you would like to achieve. There is a charge for this service, unless you are receiving benefits or on a low income, the mediator will discuss this with you.

If mediation fails for whatever reason, the mediator will sign the C100 form to enable you to apply to the court for a Child Arrangements Order for contact. You can apply for a aParental Responsibility order at the same time and you will need form C1 for this.

This is doable without a solicitor, many dads here have done this with success and we will do all we can to advise and support you.

I don't know what lawyers you have seen but I can assure you that you do have options open to you.

Here's a link to the C100 form, as you see when asked for the childs details there's a box that you can tick that says you don't know. All you need is their address, which you have. My advice to you is to get mediation started and see what happens.

http://hmctsformfinder.justice.gov.uk/HMCTS/GetForm.do?court_forms_id=2253

Best of luck