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Hi
My ex wife as recently taken my kids to live miles away from me.
I did know this was happening but was told I could not stop her. She never told me when but I seen the removal van outside as I was passing by at work.
I went as I finished work and they had gone.
I text her to.say please let me know arrive okay and address please.
She said no. You are not wanted. No dad to them now.
I tried ringing and never get reply.
A week.later my now wife had our baby so they have never met.
We have been separated for over 5 years.
Only got married last November but I have always still had my kids to stay most weekends and longer on other occasions.
I begged her not to.take them and I have been.heartbroken.
She has got in touch with csa to get money off me which I don't mind providing for my children as I used to give her money for them before.
Just why is it so easy for them to get help for money off fathers yet fathers can't get help.
I also believe she has changed their surnames and I thought that wasn't allowed without.my permission.
I need help or don't want my kids with another man's surname.
I've lost them as I can't see them. But to have nothing of me connected to them is tearing me apart.
I know I have a baby to think about but I don't want anyone to think because I have new child I have forgotten them.
I. Love my children the same
How do I find out.for.sure if changed their names.
Is she allowed to stop me seeing.them just cos suits her
Hi there
I'm sorry you are in such a difficult and upsetting situation, but she doesn't have the right to to stop you seeing them, in fact it's their right to have you in their lives.
If you don't know their whereabouts you can apply to the court for a seek and find order, you don't need a solicitor to do this, as they can be extremely costly. All you need is form C4 and some basic information about who may know where they've moved to, either a family member, or a government agency for example. He court can ask for them to make her location available to the court and once you have that you can apply for contact.
As far as changing their names, she couldn't do that officially, without your consent, but I'm pretty sure she can change them unofficially, except for things like a passport application, she would have to use the name on their birth certificate them
if you have any questions at all, please don't hesitate to ask... all the best
As Mojo said, unofficially she can change their surname, but in reality, there are not many situations where proof of ID is not required to register names and people, and in the cases where proof is not required I would suggest it is hardly worth bothering about (gym membership etc..?)
Any school, GP, hospital, official government registration requires birth certificate or passport as evidence which I am assuming would show your surname. To change those via a deed poll, all people with parental responsibility would have to, by law, consent.
Your ex can apply to court to have the surname changed but, from extensive case law reading, is quite rare and only permitted in very exceptional cases. For instance you showed absolutely no interest in child's life, no financial commitment whatsoever..
There are strong and clear precedents in the Court of Appeal regarding such kind of applications (name change).
Two of the most recognised are:
1. House of Lords' decision in : Dawson v Wearmouth [1999] 2 WLR 960, [1999] 1 FLR 1167 (HL)
2. the Court of Appeal's decision in: Re W, Re A, Re B (Change of Name) [1999] 2 FLR 933.
If you require further details please advise.
Although my ex hasn't moved away, when we were in court recently she revealed that she had changed her surname. I'm also wondering if there is any way she could have changed the children's names? Is it possible to find out?
I wouldn't put it past her to also try and move away.
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