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Hello,
We have had 5050 court order for few months then i used my pr to safeguard due to reports from school and social services involvement. Social safety plan was really pathetic so I said pending investigation I'll support supervised to the court order and anything else required.
An enforcement happed during to which I opted to vary order.
A section 37 now ordered to which social now need to make a dicision which will not end up being 5050 despite us both liking 5050 and previously had no issues.
My variation went out the window with this and now judge thinks I have obstructed things which is my bugbear.
I will be meeting social services soon and need to get my point across but clearly dont want to lose my half or any of it.
Kids been spoken to and one says with me more and other wants 5050 which we have been told will not be happening.
What am I to expect/face/be dealing with here?
I feel it was not me who inflicted this on the kids. I safeguarded. I asked and promoted phone and 3rd party. I offered contact.
Will the social and judge see past this.
I'm at my wits end now.
Why should I end up with less and all these threats when this was not my doing.
It's difficult to comment without knowing the details. Would it be worth having a consultation with a family solicitor. Could you consider mediation or has it gone too far? Mediation would be less stressful than court
@champagne its past mediation. I think we have been in court 20 times with non mol and occ orders as well as 4 times for cao.
We were 5050 and been told that's not going to happen now.
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