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:sick: HELLO just to get this off my chest i haven't seen my boys now 6 months i left my wife on the 23/12/2018 due to on going abuse the thing is the reason i had to leave was it was the first time she punch me in front of the children and i was not prepared for that i had accepted the unacceptable far to long, i never went to the police as i was fearful of not being taken seriously, and really didn't realise that i was being mentally and financially emotionally psychologically abused you know that can't happen to a man can it ! now I'm at complete loss no support as she is now playing the victim saying it all me and guess what i been arrested now 4 times on lies and false allegations always released with no charge now its at court i have now just received 13 pages go allegations for the fact finding case .im working my way through yet there is not facts to answering to as its all lies i have already found inconsistencies from what she has said in one report the complete opposite in the other my head is spinning when i all would really like is to spend some time with my boys i missed my sons 5 birthday due to all of this and its looking like i will miss the others now he will be 10 in june the family court was meant to help yet it just keeps dragging on and on.
my wife has now said to the court i have mental problems so you guessed it i have asked the doctor and the doctor looks at me like i am cause he knows the truth !! that i have no problem there ! im now depressed and have been sign off work due to stress of this whole situation
there's no equality the man must be lying and must be the aggressive one the only thing now is i was cleaver enough to take some photos on a few times yet i didn't go to the doctor or police we will see
Hi, thats very sad to hear. my case has been very easy compared to some. All I can say is dont give up, fight the good fight in court, and clear your name. I hope you are represented by a solicitor/barrister?
I am assuming after the fact finding, they will probably do a section 7 report with cafcass. honesty is the best policy. cafcass were very reasonable with me and clearly saw there is no safety concerns with me and my children. they did not even bother to mention some of the dumb allegations as they had nothing to do with the children.
Hi there
This must be incredibly hard for you, but if you read through past posts, you will see that there are many Dads that find themselves in the same situation... having to defend themselves against false allegations, when they have been the victims of domestic abuse.
It might be a good idea to contact Mens Aid, they might be able to offer support, as they help male victims of domestic abuse.
www.mensaid.co.uk
It might be worth checking back over past communication from your ex, such as texts, this can be a source of evidence to show the abuse and coercive control that went on during your relationship.
It might also help to attend a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area, where you’ll get advice and support from others in a similar situation. Here’s a link to their website where you’ll find details of meetings nationally, hopefully there will be one near you.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
The family court moves very slowly, where allegations have been made they have to be careful to safeguard the children, the only way to do this is to make detailed investigations and ask for reports etc.
Try to stay child focused and not spend time worrying about your ex’s case and what she is doing and saying... concentrate on putting the best case forward that you can and deal with each step one at a time, without trying to second guess what might happen in the future.
All the best
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