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Hey guys.
Where do i start, Well me and my ex partner are from different towns but she agreed to move to where i lived. We got a house together(rented) and have a 4 year old who is settled in school and will be going up to full time education in September. We both split up and it was my best interest to leave her with everything and i mean everything from everything in the house right to the car. I agreed to it as she was threatening to move back home which is around half hour away and it was best not to move my daughter from School. Anyway i am currently at home with my parents until i save up for my own place and well it was agreed that with me working mon-saturday that i could have my daughter on Sundays. This hasnt been a problem until recently when she kept checking my facebook and she noticed i am going out more (im 29 so still young). She doesnt like that and is telling me im partying to much despite me having the baby when we agreed. She keeps threatening me with taking it to court which to be honest i have no idea why i just think it sher parents babbling in her ear. I pay a quarter of my wage every month which is more than enough. I have PR as im named on the Birth certificate so what steps should i take incase we end up in the courts.
Hi Sean,
It sounds like she doesn't like the idea of you moving on.
I think you need to make it clear to her that whilst you have no wish to involve third parties, you don't appreciate being threatened about contact and if she were to reduce or stop contact it would actually be you that would be taking her to court. Don't have an argument about it, but make her aware that you've taken advice and understand your rights - and if it came to it you'd be prepared to get a contact order.
Keep a record of texts and emails etc. It may be an idea to catelogue details of conversations that you have with each other just to be on the safe side.
Do you realise that according to CSA guidelines you should be paying 15% of your net income to your ex for maintenence? If it's your choice to pay 25% then that's comendable, but if you weren't aware I thought it might be useful for you to know.
FM '70
Hi Sean
FM is quite right about the amount you would be assessed to pay, so any threat to take you to court (except, as FM says, she can't do) is completely idle. I would also consider removing her from your Facebook - it's an aggravation you really don't need.
ACTD's point about Facebook is spot on! It's an aggrevation that you really don't need :woohoo:
thanks guys for the answers and well she was going on my fb through her friends so i removed them all now so hopefully she wont get onto it as everything is private. I am now to seeing my daughter every sunday which is what we agreed but when i am now messaging her during the week asking how the baby is she keeps threatening me with police saying im harrasing her. Its getting beyond a joke now that she just ignores my messages asking how the child is. Can she do this as i am named on the birth certificate.
In regards to the 15% maybe i will pay that this month and no doubt she will be replying to my messages then. Should i just give her the 15% and see what happens?
i have just had a phone call from the police saying im harrasing her cos shes not replying to my messages when all im asking is how the baby is. Tjhe police have told me im not allowed to do this is this right as i have PR as named on birth certificate
Hi
I would be careful about texting if she is making an official complaint. I would look at mediation to see if there is any way forward.
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