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Hi there, I've come across this when I googled some help for my fiancé, am wondering anyone could give me some advice please.
He has two amazing sons there 7and10 there no bother at all, and he has a baby daughter with me who's 4 montgs old.
He split up from his xwife 7 years ago and we have been together nearly 3 years.
Normally he gets his sons every other weekend on Friday night Saturday and Sunday daytime then has to take them back at 5.00 tea time and his Mam is meant to have them every Monday after they have been to school.
She is trouble and does try to upset him a lot but usually he can cope with it. Anyway he hasn't seen them for two months on his weekends, his Mam has been bringing them to our house on a Monday so he can see them and also for them to see there half sister who they love to bits!
He hasn't had them for four weekends now, also she's recently totally stopped him from getting in touch with them and stopped his Mam from seeing them too! We think she's also took there phones away from him so he can't reach them that way either ! It's got really nasty!
It's sooo awful of her!
This is all because one weekend she turned round to him and said
'You will have to take both the lads to football' even though it's impossible to take them both because they play at the same times at totally different places! Even though she always goes to one of there matches so she could of helped and took one of them. She refused and said it was his problem even though it's only hurting there sons!
She uses them as weapons to hurt my fiancé !
So he didn't take them so we all went out instead for the day. Ever since that she has refused for them to see them!! So pathetic and sad!
i feel soooo bad for him ! I can't imagine how hurt he is
So I'm wondering if anyone in here could advise any websites or legal advise to help us get to see them or have contact ?
This can't be right there must be some rights as a father to see his boys 🙁
Please help thankyou x
Hi There,
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What advice are you looking for?
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GTTS
Just in what he can do about this
To see his kids
There must be some way around what she's doing ?
Or any websites or help he can get
Hi Jen
OK, starting point, is there a legal agreement in place, ie either a contact order or a child arrangement order? If there is, then he would be looking at going to court to get the order enforced. If it's all been an informal arrangement, then he needs to look at mediation first to see if an agreement can be reached without going to court - take a look at www,nfm.org.uk
If mediation doesn't work, thenhe would be looking at going to court for contact - it can get nastier at this stage as the mother can get spiteful, but if he is lucky, the fact that he is going to mediation and prepared to go to court might be enough to bring her to her senses. He needs to start keeping a diary of everything that is said, and all missed contact, it might be useful if he does go to court.
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