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Hi,
On Saturday just gone my wife whom we have been separated for nearly two years phoned me to say I cant have any more contact with my son who is 5 and daughter who is 11 any more. She has blocked my calls even to herself. I am so ill and constantly crying because i love my children dearly and the thought of not speaking to them is killing me. I am used to having them every other weekend as we live 70 miles apart. I don't know what I need to do to get access as never been in this position before. Surely i have some rights as we both have parental responsibility and if i travel up north to just pick one of them up from school without her knowing, would i get in to trouble for it?
I am so desperate for advice. It's the most evil thing someone can do, stopping their child from seeing you. It should be illegal.
Hi There,
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We can help you through this, but you need to look after yourself too, if you are feeling ill then go and see your GP they will be able to offer you help, not always in the way of meds but they can also suggest support groups that you can go too to help you through.
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With regards to contact with your children, you firstly need to find a mediator I would go for one near where she lives to raise the chances of her attending, hopefully you can resolve this through mediation and won't need to continue through to court, but if you do need to attend court the mediator will sign the C100 court application so that you can apply. if you have had a set schedule for when you see the children in place for a while then there would be no reason for this not to be reienstated.
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I would strongly recomemnd that you don't go and try and collect your children from school as without any contact order in place you would land up in trouble and that would make any court case a lot more complicated and drawn out.
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I know it's difficult but for the short term, you need to stay clear and ensure you are following everything by the book as this will help you more in the long term.
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GTTS
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