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Hi all,
This is something I have touched on in previous posts but am not sure how to approach the situation.
I have requested to have my daughter for another 2 nights a month so I would have her every Wednesday instead of every other Wednesday (as some of you know I already have her every Sunday night.).
My Ex wants to ask my daughter if she wants to stay at mine the extra nights and I am concerned that she might sway my daughters thinking because she is only 3. Also I think its putting my daughter on the spot to choose her parents. My ex currently works part time and gets to see her all throughout the week.
Also something else that concerns me is that a 3 year old can say yes one day and no the next.
If i was a bad dad and never got to see my child i would understand but i try and do as many activities as possible with her and she loves all the time she spends with me and i know that because she tells me.
I'm not sure what to do.
Hi there
I personally don't think it's right to involve a small child in such decisions, discussions about contact should be kept between the parents and should never involve the child. At 3 your little one isn't old enough to make any kind of judgement and involving her in this way could make her feel insecure. Children will often say what they think their parents want to hear and as you say she really doesn't have the ability to forward think, it's yes and no as the moment dictates.
Well i am pleased to announce that i now have my daughter every Wednesday and Sunday! Wheeeewwww!!!! Also it has been arranged that i will have her for one long weekend a month. π
I just hope she keeps up her end of the bargain. No need for mediation, no need for court.... perfect.
Thank you all for all your advice! What a great community!
Thanks,
Sean
Great news Sean!
Brilliant π
Next mission is to confirm it in writing like a text or email... something she can respond to. Then i will be a happy chappy.
Keep a diary of all visits (with photos) - if she changes her mind in future, it will be easier if it gets to court that you can prove the level of contact you've had.
Well done for sorting it out amicably though π
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