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I will ommit details due to serious nature of the allegation.
Last Tuesday I was arrested under the allegation of committing a sexual act in front of my daughter at my parents house over the weekend.
I was released under investigated the same day, (not charged, not bailed just under investigation)
The allegation stems from my daughter playing with a bubblebath/slime toy product in the bath, while my mother and myself were present
she then went home and told mummy "that she played with slime, daddy peed on hand etc etc" jump to your own conclusions.
The Tuesday morning at 5am after the weekend she had stayed , police officers arrived at my parents house (I live with them) and I was arrested under allegation.
interviewed with solicitor present, released same day. Part of proceedure the bedding, clothing, bed clothing was taken and all electronic devices in same room, pc, mobile etc.
As I know my own innocence and know there is nothing on the above, I contacted a criminal solicitor and paid £300 for an hour consultation,
he reassured me more that it sounds like a misunderstanding, but I am not allowed to see my daughter until investigation is concluded. With Christmas coming up soon I find this appauling, but know many fathers have been through this situation.
At this stage I have not been charged with anything, and I know there is no dna evidence at all to say I commited sexual at infront of daughter,
in my defence and my parents were also present at same property ALL weekend. Only concern I have is that my daugher did stay in my bed the saturday night because she asked to, and my mother was present when she asked. I am worried they will try and stitch me up some how and stay somethign happened without evidence.
I do feel more positive as days pass, but still this is just a horrible thing to be acussed of.
hello 🙂
Released under investigation is a fairly new approach to policing since the 3rd April 2017 when the Policing and Crime Act 2017 came in to force.
Has your mother been interviewed?
Yes my mum interviewed for hour on Friday
Forgot to mention the same Saturday of allegation I announced I'm in new relationship on Facebook and also did not mention my daughter is 4.
My ex suffered post natal depression
How long do these things take? Or can they take months or years unless a solicitor or barrister pushes them when required if it reaches court.
I'm hoping the cps will not waste time with this [censored]
Sorry but its totally stupid
because you have been released under investigation you therefore have no bail timelimit so it can take as long as they want im afraid and they are never in a hurry 🙁
Thanks for reply.
So could be years. I honestly feel like walking away
There was no custody battle
She has put 2+2=7
Should have phoned me to ask , maybe her anxiety went into orbit.
They do need evidence don't they? They can't just court it without concrete evidence
they will gather all statements, seize your goods and go through the lot
they then present it to the CPS and they decide if its in the publics interest to put you on trial
trust me when i say i know how [censored] this process is but hang on.....it will come right
Thanks for reply. I'm shocked how many dads have gone through this
This happened to my partner last year. He was on police bail for 6 months then told no further action would be taken. Sadly he was in the middle of a contact battle and family court insisted on trying him too. He’s only just been totally exonerated so in all his nightmare lasted 14 months. He’s not seen his children in all that time and still doesn’t know when he will. It’s shocking how many women do this, there should be proper penalties. All I can say is get a good solicitor and barrister if you can and try to have faith in justice. His judge made some judgements which were downright wrong but on the whole she recognised he was telling the truth and ex wasn’t.
That's appauling what if the children request to see their father ? Also the rest of his family should be able to see the children.
If I was prevented from seeing my kid for a long time I would stop all child payments and kick up such a stink they would wish they never opened that can of worms
Sadly his children have been brainwashed into thinking he’s a monster by their mother and her new partner so they wouldn’t ask to see him. He tried stopping maintenance payments (he did however keep the money aside for the chidrnen) but she went to the child maintenance service and he’s made to pay. If a mother makes these allegations everyone initially believes her, it took him all this time to be totally exonerated and now he’s just got to wait for the court to decide when he can see his children again. It’s tragic and heartbreaking what this man has been through and the damage that has been done to him and his children. No one can bring back the time he’s lost with them and no one seems to be trying to put things right very quickly.
What was the allegation and why was it dropped.
Sadly its a war, one side takes one side and the other takes the other in a fight to the death.
Unless I see my daughter I would fight not to pay
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