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My 12 year old daughter has been physically and mentally abused by my ex, my daughter has said she would rather die that return to mum's, then my 10 year old son says if she does not return he doesn't want to go either, if he did then he my get hit if his sister was not there to take it.
I have refused to return them and last Friday been to my local social services who are just sitting on the fence, also to my local police who in turn informed my ex's local police who in turn informed my ex's local social service. I have also made an appointment at a solicitors for the 1th September.
My ex went to her local social services who then telephoned me. I tried to explain to him that I am deaf and because of all the background noise his end I can not hear him properly. I also went on to inform him that my daughter was sitting next to me in the car, so I would rather not discuss too much in front of her, he just disregarded this and just carried on. What I could make out is he said my ex has shown him the shared residence order and that I have broken it, she denied any abuse, also if I interfere with my children's schooling that is neglect. I tried to tell him that I have seen a solicitor and before I could say any more he said that he is making a record of this call and will not be opening a case there in Essex against my ex.
I have shared residence and PR. I am worried about what will happen to my daughter if she is forced to return. I am in the process of registering my children with my GP and getting my children into schools local to me. as my daughter has just finished primary school and had no transition to my ex's chosen high school this is not a problem for her, as for my son he says he is worried about making new friends.
My ex got evicted from her previous three bedroomed house for not looking after it, so moved to a two bedroomed house in another town only informing me two days before hand, and not informing me of a change of school all in my daughters last year in primary school. my daughter now has to share a bedroom with my ex and as the house is opposite a pub when it gets noisy or cold he sleeps in the same bedroom as well.
Can the Essex social services come and take my children and return them back to my ex?
Thanks in advance for any help or advice ...
Kevin
Hi Kevin
I'm afraid this is quite complex - is your appointment for the solicitor on the 1st or the 11th - if it's 11th, I'd try to get in before then to get legal advice on an interim order.
Hi actd,
The earliest appointment is the 11th Sept, I've so far registered both my children with my local GP and in the process of enrolling them into local schools so their education does not lapse.
Thanks
Kevn
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