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I've just found out that my daughter (had DNA) has said at her "Life story" work &to CAFCASS that she doesn't want to see me or have contact.I've never met her,she's 7,so this must be the mum poisoning her mind.
Will the judge still give me contact.if i dont get contact,do i still pay CSA?
I think they will listen to your daughter, but I also think that some kind of contact could still be attempted in a very controlled way...The agencies involved will be aware of things like parental alienation, and will probably work with your daughter to establish a relationship with you at some point. If you continue to state you would like a relationship, and are prepared to do whatever it takes, then it should move forward, but very slowly. This is just my opinion.
CSA payments and contact have no bearing on each other, and even if you had no contact you will still be liable for the maintenance payment.
I'm of the same opinion as nj. A court may well order indirect contact (letters, cards etc) at first and it's going to be a long process if it goes anywhere beyond there - think about it from your daughter's point of view - she has no idea who you are, has no bond at all with you, even aside any parental alienation that may have occurred, so to learn to trust you is going to take a long time.
...From his previous posts, I believe this gentleman was given the opportunity to correspond with his daughter and failed to do so. This non compliance at such an early stage indicates a lack of comittment. I cant see that contact will ever be initiated in the circumstances.
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