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Still going through this process, trying to encourage my alienated children to engage in contact but to no avail, due to the lack of support from mum. At last hearing, I suggested that my two alienated children spend some time with grandparents to build trust and eventually lead to them engaging in contact with me in the future. The judge liked this idea and requested mum communicate with grandparents directly, allowing for an hour each week until the next hearing in 8 weeks. As expected, she is not replying to any communication from my mum, despite the judge asking 'for her word' that she would cooperate. She is clearly alienating my parents as well and I wonder how the judge will view this when we return to court? How can I contact the court to explain she is not engaging and to request bringing the hearing forward?
I doubt the court would be able to bring the hearing forward but you could email/write to the courts to forward your email/letter to the judge who ruled on the previous hearing and explain that the ex is not complying with the expectation of the judge at the hearing.
unless it was ordered you can't claim she's breaking the order, she is merely not doing what was promised at the hearing.
going forward anything agreed at court you should ask be written as part of the order, judges trying to be flexible by asking parents to agree to things between them is being naïve in their expectations (in my opinion and experiences dealing with an alienating ex).
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