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Hi everyone,
Does anyone have experience dealing with a hostile ex and their family refusing to leave after they've brought the child for court ordered unsupervised contact with dad? It is with the intention of 'supervising' contact and ensuring he isn't in his own with the child.
He's going for enforcement for persistent breaches, but I was wondering if the court can do anything to make sure they're not there / not following them around during contact as the negativity from them will start to affect the child. Has anyone had supported handovers?
Thanks as always for your help 🙂
I dont understand sorry,
they refuse to leave after theyve brought for court ordered unsupervised contact, brought to where.
Is this is a contact centre? cant dad just take the child elsewhere?
Id apply for enforicement
Sorry I had to be a bit vague for fear of giving too much away.
We are going back for enforcement because mum has decided that she won't let him take the child away from her and says contact has to be at a designated place that she has decided on (not in the court order, he should be picking the child up and bringing the child back later) and that they will be supervising (supervised contract has never been ordered). It's not at a contact centre, just public play areas (indoor & outdoor).
He is loathe to remove his child from the place mum has chosen as he knows the family will kick off and the child will be distressed by the situation.
I'm just wondering how the court might react to the interference to contact by the maternal family and is it constitutes harassment?
Depending on how far away the hearing is, I would consider writing to the judge who made the order asking for urgent new directions. If the hearing is imminent, unless you can proceed with the contact without distressing the child, there's not much you can do. The court won't look kindly to this. It's worth asking your MF to assist with a letter to court....
Good luck
Hi Yoda,
We're going to wait for the hearing as it's not too far away. The MF is helping with paperwork 🙂
I just wanted to get an idea of how the court may react to what I see as interfering with contact, like if there's anything that can be done during proceedings to stop them 'watching' contact in public places? I feel that we might be followed wherever we go.
The court can order that the mother does not interfere with contact. It will have to be dealt with during the hearing, the MF will be able to help your partner raise this and the judge shouldn't take too kindly to this type of behaviour.
The court can order that the mother does not interfere with contact. It will have to be dealt with during the hearing, the MF will be able to help your partner raise this and the judge shouldn't take too kindly to this type of behaviour.
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