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Hi everyone I'm Jase. I have now been split up with the mother of my child for over 2 1/2 years in this time.
Here's my story.
My boy was born and since birth I have been their for my boy even after two months I was given 5 night a week every 2 weeks as I was hands on, my ex got a new partner and within months represented the new guy as my sons dad and within a month or so after told me my boy was unsettled and cut all my contact.
I waited for court for 6 weeks once a bit of a battle with lack of funding my side I got time with my boy back which has built into Tuesday's and Thursday's 6 hours and every other weekend, well part of the weekend.
She's said comments like my house is damp in action I started having my boy at my friends and she still carried on the accusation, she started telling me he's not eating right and I'm not changing his nappy so I started writing a care list for my boy all the foods he eats even the unhealthy variety and wrote in all his naps and nappy changes. Within a week she asked me to stop letting her know, I just recently got a message saying she's having my boy on one of his allocated days for me and explained to me he's unwell and I'm guessing the reason is because it's kids holidays as for the past 3-4 months everytime my boy has come to me unwell I have cared for him without question wrapped him up and cuddled him to sleep to comfort my boy. Reason I'm posting on here is because I just don't know where to go here's the message I sent as a reply.
Hi am sorry to hear that you have had a bad night with our boy i hate to see him poorly so i hope its nothing serious i agree that he shouldn't be passed around today when he's not feeling 100% but can i ask this i have him for my hours today but on Saturday as its a long time to wait til next Tuesday to see my boy if he still doesn't fill 100% i can assure you i have all the medication needed at home to keep check on his temperature and also have a thermometer
With regards to the flowers ill take your advice on.board were always out exploring things and he's never attempted to put them in his mouth before only sniff them
Please keep me updated on how he is feeling and if there is anything i can do to help am only a phone call away.
Once again no reply and I'm in a horrible situation and hope someone can help me
The pollen was a accusation when I have him I picked up a flower round the corner from the drop off point and had my boy in my shoulders I figured a nice thing would be to give it to my boy to hand to his mum lol, some how my boy isn't well, when I took my boy back 100% well and now mention of don't give jaxon flowers when on my shoulders lol.
Hi There,
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I have moved your post to it's own thread as the one you posted on was an old topic and you will get more answers this way, I have also removed your ex's name and the image of yourself and your son, it's best to keep things like that private as this forum can be read by anyone even if they aren't members and if your ex or anyone she knows stumbled accros your post it would cause you further issues I'm sure
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GTTS
Hi There,
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If this is the first time she has messed you about and you have missed your time with your son, I wouldn't do anything, I know it's annoying, but you wouldn't really get very far if you started to use mediation or even court becuase of it, Instead just log it, and write out the messages you recieved and the one you sent and keep a log of any further issues in case it starts to become a common theme.
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I think your reply to your ex was spot on and you are being very fair by asking for your time on another day, it's rubbish when children are ill, and even more so when you can be with them.
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GTTS
GTTS has given you some good advice, keep a diary and screenshots, or a transcript of texts and emails.
She should by rights offer you alternate time to replace what is lost and you did the right thing responding to her and showing concern for your son. Remind her that your time with your son is ordered by the court and she really needs to abide by that, as it is in the best interests of your son that he has a relationship with you both. It will only be confusing for him if his routine is messed about with and he misses the days he has with you. Keep it friendly as you have before, just a gentle reminder her that she miners to keep to what has been ordered.
If she continues to ignore the order then you have the option of applying to the court for enforcement of the order. Sometimes it's a good dea to try mediation before taking the step to court, but sometimes it's neccessary.
Let's hope your son is well very soon and she gets your contact back on track.
All the best
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