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Hello
I’ve been reading a bit on here but this is my first post and I hope someone can give some advice.
I moved out of the family home in April and been ‘playing nice’ all along because I don’t like stress and just want a simple/easy divorce.
The ex was ok with me moving out at the start but is now getting more and more erratic and unreasonable.
After hundreds of emails back and forth we came to an agreement as to how to split debt and assets and my pension and once my solicitor sent the draft over to her solicitor she refused to accept it and wanted more.
I requested for her to disclose the form E so that our assets/debts can be compared but she doesn’t want to do it.
I left it for 2 weeks or so and started again and it took another bunch of emails over a couple of days to come to another agreement in principle.
As soon as my solicitor drew up another draft and it landed with her solicitor she sent another email tell ing me she is refusing it again .....
I can’t carry on like that and my money and patience is running out.
I am now looking at online divorce since it seems to be cheaper but I am not sure how to go about it and if they can help me if she keeps refusing all the time.
What options have I got to get this divorce over and done with asap?
Any advice and info is greatly appreciated!!
How can the divorce petition go about without her consent? And how will the agreement look like in that case? Based on what will the judge make a fair decision?
How can the divorce petition go about without her consent? And how will the agreement look like in that case? Based on what will the judge make a fair decision?
Hi there
The divorce side of things isn't in my sphere of knowledge, but here's a link to Advice Now guidelines/PDF that you might find helpful. There's also a book written by a top divorce lawyer, I think it's called Divorce Without a Lawyer by Marilyn Stowe, there's a kindle version that's pretty cheap I think.
If this link won't work, just go to the Advice Now website and search for Divorce without a lawyer and it should come up, they have guides that they charge for, but this link is free I believe.
www.advicenow.org.uk/file/2455/download?token=ompo7_4o
All the best
We do have a financial Moderator that might be able to advise you, you can find her thread in the finance section.
We are also in partnership with Dialogue First, who offer a free telephone consultation with a fully qualified lawyer, I'll get the link for you.
Sorry , this question probably has been asked lots of time but I can’t seem to find the right answer.
If I start proceedings and send my application to the court because my spouse is refusing to accept my financial proposal, how and when does the court rule on that? Are they looking at my proposal to see if it’s fair?
I can seem to find any info on that. All the posts just mention the court proceedings and so on but not the financial order.
I believe that the court will expect that you attend mediation to see if any agreement can be reached - are you talking about the financial arrangements for the divorce or for child maintenance? If it's child maintenance, then open a case with CMS - the courts won't override that in any case..
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