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Hi guys made account as I'm desperate for some advice which I've struggled to find anywhere else on the web.
Last year I slept casually a few times with a girl and got her pregnant. I didn't know her very well so when she approached me about it I got very nervous and one of my first questions was is the baby defiantly mine? she said she wouldn't put me through this if she had any doubts. I told her I didn't feel ready for a child but would step up and help as much as I could. over the months of her pregnancy we didn't get on too well and I eventually made it clear to her when the baby was born I would like a DNA test which I would pay for so I could have it on paper this baby was mine. She reacted very badly to this claiming she felt I was calling her a slag and contact between us broke down.
After the baby was born in Feb she put a letter through my door saying she wanted me to meet the baby and the CSA has been contacted, I felt DNA would be done soon and felt I should meet the baby as to not miss out on any more. I later found out CSA was not contacted and she kept putting it off. The only reason for not going to CSA I could ever get out of her was that she didn't want it on paper that the baby was mine as I could take the baby off her which I told her wasn't really possible or something I wanted to do but that did not work. I left it with without a DNA test I didn't not want to know her or the baby. Thinking that would finally prompt her to get on with it but this failed.
Fast forward to recent times and she has still made no process getting DNA done or going to CSA and has a BF. She still on social media makes sure everyone knows its my child and calls me many downgrading names. If she sees me in person she verbally attacks me telling me I need to pay for my child. I've reported her twice to the police as it all got a bit much for me she was even coming in my work place.
I'm now stuck on what to do. I feel guilty for the child as if its mine I want to be involved but of course her nastyness and avoiding DNA at all costs has given me doubts. I was wandering what I can legally do to obtain DNA I don't have a massive wage so looking at lawyer prices makes me nervous. I know after DNA I'll be paying CSA for a long time but Im happy to do so if its my child as its fair to do so.
I've had no children or experience with law before and I'm pretty much at my lowest point emotionally in my entire life over this so any advice I will be very grateful for.
https://hmctsformfinder.justice.gov.uk/HMCTS/GetForm.do?court_forms_id=2631
The link above will take you to the C63 form that you can use to make the application yourself.
It's quite straight forward and you don't need a lawyer to do it for you.
Best of luck
I don't know and can't find the mothers address will this effect the application? as it asks for it.
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