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Ps, re the abuse and stalking you mention, there are support services out there you can contact for support..
It's not as simple as turning up and denying as then the court will schedule a further hearing to look into the allegations and determine what to believe which in turn will decide upon whether to sign off the non mol for 6 or 12 months which may impact child contact.
It all depends on the allegations and evidence. One option is to go to court, deny and request to accept an undertaking that you will not contact ex and agree that the non mol can be signed off. However the non mol can impact child contact as if you are not allowed to contact ex (unless non mol says except for the purposes of child contact) then it makes it difficult to pick up/drop off etc..
It may be that you get to court and your ex is more amicable re child contact and only did non mol to secure legal aid... There are lots of variables and only you know your ex.
About using evidence you have, it all depends on your priorities. If you want child contact sooner then allegations she or you raise need to be looked at first to ensure there are no safeguarding issue so the more you throw in the more that needs to be looked at. If you want to you could reach out to an org that supports men with domestic abuse and gets some advice and guidance for free which may help you further.
Appreciate the replies. i will bullet point the replies back for each thing she has said. Basically what she has wrote is me doing to her what she has done to me!!! can i not spin it on its head and get a order against her? i am not lying down ive done nothing wrong. I will fight to the end with this be it 3/6/9/12 months time it will be me smiling when i get my child!! the system favours these lunatics too much. I cannot believe i have to go to a hearing to defend a load of lies.
Can anyone advise the best practice for myself. i am not paying for solicitors and letting her win that way either!!!
@obsession1 daddyup has given great advice. maybe you could seek an initial free consultation from a solicitor about this. if the easiest route to get child contact is to accept a non-mol undertaking on basis you have done nothing wrong, then possible thats something you could consider doing. I understand that court can give an exception to allow you to make child arrangements if a non mol stays in place. would recommend you seek legal advice before deciding which option to take.
Who is the best charity to speak with and is it worth it? or am i better getting advice off here?
@obsession1 There are smaller local charities too that support victims of domestic abuse. Try googling domestic abuse charities in your area. Smaller ones may have more capacity and are just as effective as the larger ones.
If you are looking for support re domestic abuse and some general advice, orgs to consider are Mensadviceline and Mankind Initiative..
It all depends on the advice you are looking for, general child arrangements etc forum members have some great knowledge. Domestic violence support, counselling, protecting yourself from further harassment etc these orgs are great.
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