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I have a 15 week old little girl, when she was born and we brought her home from hospital her mother my now ex partner kicked me out and stopped me seeing her.
She then agreed access to my daughter at her house only and no time alone, she continued to have an on off relationship with me on her terms.
She registered my daughter without my knowledge and without my name present.
She has since met a new partner through tinder and has given me regular access to my daughter.
She booked an appointment today for us to re register the birth, when I went to pick her up she refused to go and said she will never put me on her birth certificate, when I asked why she said: "I don't want you to be her dad, you were a big mistake and I never loved you or wanted a family with you, I do not want you having any rights to her but you can still have access, I want to control everything you do, if I decide to move away and stop you seeing her and not let you know where we are I can do it"
Im currently consulting with a solicitor about getting a court order but I cannot afford the solicitors and I'm afraid she will dissappear with my daughter.
What can I do?
Greg
Being put on the birth certificate or getting PR won't give you any extra protection if she decides to get awkward about things, so I would consider whether there is any advantage to going for this at the moment, when it might mean your ex starts obstructing contact.
If she does want to restrict contact in the future, then that would be the time to take action.
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