Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: Important Information – open to read:
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
The Mother of my daughter is making it impossible for me to see her.
Had to go through csa to have a dna test done after she brought up the fact that we would need one, so I payed for it and jumped through all the hoops that I have had to just to know that she is mine, but since finding out that she is mine I have only seen her 6 times.
The first arrangement was to go round and see my daughter when her son was in bed for obvious reasons because he isnt mine and so that there was no other attachments and it was just time for me and more daughter to get to know each other and create a bond.
The arrangement was working okay until I asked if I could go round and see her tomorrow night (21/6/2017), she got mad at me saying how its unfair on her son for me to be there on an evening when he is asleep cause he has school at 12 o'clock the following days, eventhough that arrangement was made by her and now she want to meet me out and is trying to act like a happy family which isnt what I want.
I have asked to have her on my own,which I dont see a problem with because I am really good with my daughter and she now settles with me when I see her, her mother has seen me with her and knows I am great with her and that I know how look after her.
She has now brought up going to court to sort out seeing my daughter, i did some reshearch on that, court wont take our case until mediation between myself and her fails. I hate the idea of going through court as its not what i want my daughters first memorys to be. Ive explained to her that court wont see us unless mediation fails and shes refusing to go to mediation telling me to go through court. What should i do?
Hi
Unless you can agree between yourselves, the only other option available to you is to attempt mediation and possibly a court application.
If she refuses to attend mediation, or attends but won't agree, then the mediator will sign a court application form for you.
Contact your local mediator and they deal with trying to set it up for you.
Thank you for your advice, I have submitted my application for mediation and am just awaiting a phone call to arrange everything
Hi There,
.
Well once mediation is arranged they will write you your ex, and as Yoda has said if she won't attend or you still can't agree then you can apply through court for help.
.
Good luck and keep us posted, and feel free to ask any questions.
.
GTTS
Welcome to the DAD.info forum.
We don’t like to set ‘rules’, but to make sure that you and the other dads are kept safe, we have some requests. When engaging with the forum, please be aware of the following:
- The forum is not moderated 24 hours per day.
- Many of the moderators do so on a voluntary basis. Whilst they may be able to provide some guidance, advice or support, they may not be able to deal with specifics.
- We are not an emergency crisis service so if you or someone else is in immediate danger, please call emergency services.
- If you are concerned about the safety of a child, please click here to find the support you can get for them (link to new page)
- If you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123. They are open 24 hours a day, 7 days per week.
We hope you find this forum a supportive environment and thank you for joining us.