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My ex and I separated 7 years ago. We share parenting over 2 children. 12 and 9 years old.
We have a court order - they live with her, and spend some weekends and half holidays with me.
Recently, their mother started asking me to take more care for them by taking on her holiday days.
I generally don't mind but the increase is noticeable.
Now, during school time, she is leaving the country for holidays, and leaving the children with a friend of hers. Last month she did this for 10 days. They stayed for that long with a friend of hers.
They can't stay with me during school time because I'm too far from the school.
I am not pleased with the amount of time they are spending away from both of us.
seems too much, and I do notice it irks them quite a bit.
I just think they can easily feel neglected, being left on their own with another family for days on end??? that can't be right.
What can I do? I'm starting to think of all options at this point.
Hi,
I don't think much can be done about this. if the kids are safe with her friend or family member, and still doing their homework and going to school. if you lived a lot closer to school, then you possibly could go for a 50/50 arrangement.
Would you want to have them live with you, change schools and see their mother at weekends and during school holidays? I guess that could be one of the options.
As a separated parent, you have the right to leave the children in the care of others as long as it’s safe(physically and emotionally). This applies to both her and yourself.
You should only raise this as a concern if the children express grief over it or whether it affects their school attendance.
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