[Solved] Mother denied me to see my son without warning

Is there a contact order or child arrangement order in place? If there isn't, then she can withhold access, though a court wouldn't look on it too kindly in the future. I wouldn't recommend just turning up, she could call the police for breach of the peace, and you don't want anything that could be held against you.

Assuming there is no order in place, then you would need to look at mediation as a first step.

Thank you for your reply.

There is only an agreement in place which a solicitor issued for us and worked until last week.
The police even offered to wait until my son was brought back but asked if I could agree to wait till next weekend so I agreed.

I was also informed that she would text me that our arrangement will be honoured again from next week onwards.
Well I received a text through a common friend,
However the police also mentioned I could text her but only regarding our son
So I am struggling not to ask her if I can see him tomorrow to make up for today.

I really do not know what do. Any advise would be highly appreciated,

PS;I will defiantly go for mediation but right now after my move I do not have the funds so this will have to wait unfortunately for short while.

Sadly the signs of another mother using kids as weapons. If the police have advised you to only text regarding the child then that's a sign of one slip up from you and your going to be arrested for harassment. Then maybe a ex parte non molestation order against you and trust me there very easy to obtain for a woman.

I would let it be this weekend, clearly she is peed with you atm so dont add fuel to the fire. Also i would start recording during collecting and pick times and try and make it discrete to even if its just a voice recorder in your pocket say. What you dont want is for her to make allegations against you and from my experience they are very good at making allegations and your spend a lot of time explaining yourself.

Bottom line is dont make it easy for her, dont bite at texts you may not like, dont use abusive words, keep it all about seeing your child and even then down to a min and like i said if you can record everything.

All the best

Hi there

As you agreed with the police to wait until next weekend, I too would advise going with that.

If the mother is receiving benefits she will be entitled to legal aid funding for mediation and if that's the case to would also be entitled to the first session for free. Here's a link

www.nfm.org.uk/family-mediation/mediation-information-meeting-miam

The fact that you have a written agreement in place, prepared by a solicitor is good, and even though it's not a legally binding document, the court would look at it favourably.

Hopefully things can get back on track by next weekend, just tread carefully in the way you contact her as the last poster has pointed out, she could get an injunction quite easily.

Best of luck

Thank you for the advise I have been super polite and only messaged about my son . I will continue with polite messages every other day requesting to speak to my son until next weekend when In see him.

I would like to see him more often and not only 6 days a month does anyone know to how many days a month I am entitled I am her house is his residence but I live just 10min away from them and his nursery.

Again Thank you for your advice

Believe me...even polite messages every other day could be enough to get you an injunction!

Unfortunately there's not an entitlement to a set number of days that you can see your child, as I mentioned before, your first step would be to try mediation to get some agreement in place., hopefully you won't have to wait too long before starting it.

If you can't agree at mediation, your next step would be court and we can help you with that. I would cost £215 to submit your application, but that's the only outlay. A court would check your background and once they are sure that there are no safeguarding issues for the child, they will want to get a schedule of contact going. The age of the child will have a bearing on how contact happens, but generally a schedule would progress to alternate weekends and a midweek visit, however this isn't set in stone and you can of course ask for more.

Best of luck

It’s not about how many days you are entitled to. It’s about how the time your son spends with you is beneficial for him.

Don’t let people tell you that seeing your child 6 days a month is good. It’s not. If you are a loving caring father he would benefit from seeing you more than that. A lot of it depends on your’s and the mother’s work arrangements and how you can best meet the child needs.