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Hi there I'm having trouble with my eldest daughters since court! When I go pick them up on a weekend my eldest says horrible nasty things to me and trys running off her mother has brainwashed her into hating me even tho I've never done 1 single thing wrong to her, It was her birthday last week when I brought her to my house to open her birthday presents she took one look at each present then threw them on the floor saying she hates what I bought her then opened her cards stuffed the money in her pocket then shouted at me saying she wants to go home. My ex is now trying to get both my daughter to call her new feller dad and me by my normal name which is very hurtful. I've tried phoning social services but they don't want to know I've tried phoning school about her behaviour towards me but they don't want to know I really don't know what to do next can anyone help or has anyone else been through this before.
Best regards
Is your ex sticking to the court order? I'm guessing she is trying to manipulate the situation in the direction of the children refusing to come for contact? If contact were suspended, you could apply to have the order enforced and raise the concerns of emotional harm at the same time?
Have you spoken with the school to air your concerns? They might be able to offer your children some pastoral care or counselling to help them deal with this situation?
You could try a one off solicitor letter warning the mother to toe the line?
If all else fails, you could try mediation but make it clear you will return the matter to court for a variation of the order to gain more contact and deal with the issues of emotional harm to the children?
There's no easy route I'm afraid but it is also worth googling Parental Alienation for some tips on how to deal with the children in the interim.
The NSPCC might be able to offer some advice too.
Wishing you all the best, keep posting and we will do what we can to help.
Good luck
Thanks yoda my ex has not stopped contact the eldest just not want to come I've spoken with the headmaster at school but she states there is nothing she can do. Would I have to try mediation again if I go back to court for an enforcement order?
Best regards
Hi there
Mediation isn't required before an application for enforcement, but it would be when applying to vary an existing order.
Best of luck
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