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Hello everyone,
My wife informed me recently that she wants to split up. I've mentioned in a previous post that my wife has MS and I do question her reasons and logic for this decision (and her state of mind in general) but given she seems determined to go down this path I need to start thinking of myself.
I've not had any form of professional advice as yet. It's a complex situation given my wife's condition and the fact she doesn't work so I'm not sure where I can get advice from. I know I can go to a Solicitor but is there anywhere I can go to talk to somebody just to gather some information about how things could possibly pan out without paying hundreds of pounds for the privilege?
My wife has mentioned (she's an ex family solicitor) that she would like a mesher order. Having googled this, on principal I don't have a problem with this. I don't mind leaving any investment I have made thus far tied up in the property until a later date, I don't mind it won't be 50/50 when the property is sold and I know I'll have to pay child maintenance.
What has baffled me is my wife thinks I will pay 100% of the mortgage in addition to the maintenance.
This doesn't seem reasonable to me (although reading some of the posts on here there isn't very much that is reasonable in these situations) and will stop me being able to get any sort of property of my own either renting or buying.
Does anyone have any experience of this and/or advice?
Thanks in advance!
it might be worth contacting the citizens advice bureau for some general advice, and it also might be worth paying for some specific advice from a solicitor about the pros and cons of what she is suggesting. It's possible that hers is a starting position for negotiation.
Thank you very much - I think the CAB is definitely my next port of call.
I've had some provisional legal advice but before I pay up for more I would like to gather some more facts. CAB seems a good place to start.
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