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It's not a subject I really wish to hammer home about in a court but i do feel a judge should at least be aware of.
Any ideas on how to bring the subject up without looking spiteful or vextrious towards her. I have no concerns with her being able to continue being a great mum but with her allegations to get me arrested 3 times and with whats going on with the ex parte NMO at present (thats even got the courts confused) its clear as day light that she is not acting on what is deemed to be the average persons mind set. She already admitted that she is maybe over reacting and this really does coinsides with her illness.
She is registered with the MH team and should be on medication.
I know we can all over react but on nearly every issue she has brought up so far ?? surely its should be at least made aware to a judge. ?
cheers
You could make reference to it out of concern for her, saying first that she's a great mum and there have never been any issues previously, something that she also agreed with at the last hearing... Then mention she is under the MH team and you are concerned that her out of character behaviour may be as a result of her mental health issues. Explain then that all you want to do is support her and her son, as he has been a member of your family for many years and you are concerned that the suspension of contact will be causing him much distress, as he has expressed his wish to continue to be involved with you all.
Erratic behaviour is something you could raise as a significant concern if she's under MH team. It's not vexatious to raise it as a concern provided it's worded well.
Cheers again guys.
Mojo- great wording that ill be using thanks, There has been a few issues over the past with her illness but it will be my word against hers. As for supporting i believe this is also a factor in when she is being the way she is, It the only thing I can think of that upsets her when she feels she has had to rely on my help during the first year of splitting up. Iv repaired the car number of times, I helped collect the boy from Grandparents ( 3 hour round trip) done things around the house for her even knowing she has a new boyfriend ect. Seems the more i helped out and cared the worse she got. Only when I was totally done and said im here for the boy and boy only now has she fully turned.
The undertaking I offered was to help with her anixity issues and I told the judge why although I dont except the allegations i do except that she does have issues and the undertaking was to help her, it was the order I cant see or speak in any means possible to the boy that I wish to contest. Even offered that contact to resume on a mthy basis or the very least chat via internet and give festive presents ect. Basically giving her the two orders she wants but not the 3rd one. With everything that was said that day i thought the judge may have pushed her to except the undertaking but NO the judge declined it without really asking her.
Why the delay in sending the court paperwork when nothing has been change to what was said on the day.
Cant help but feel its all one sided with the fact so far with this whole case ie got nothing on me but hey lets give it time to maybe find something.
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