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Hi again everyone,
I sent a letter to my children's doctors requesting: -
1) a copy of their medical records
2) that I be placed on record as a contact in a emergency on all medical databases
3) copies of my letter be placed on my children's medical records
4) that i be kept informed of any medical issues should my children attend the doctors.
The reply back was no issue on first three points however there is an issue with point four being that it is not practical to keep me informed if the children attend so this would not be happening.
My reply to this was that as a father with parental responsibility it is part of my duty to ensure the health and well being of my children. and my children's mother is refusing to keep me informed then it is beholden upon them to keep me informed as part of there safeguarding duties.
Am I wrong?
Am i going to have to request copies of my children's medical records every six months as the answer?
I was also wondering what fellow members experiences are with being kept up to date with medical issues by the ex ?, if you have come across the same problem? and how this was overcome? and what other problems have you had?
I think the problem is simply that doctors don't have the means to automatically inform you if there is anything reportable, so I suspect that unfortunately, you are going to need to keep going back to ask for this.
Hello ChainMail,
I would be happy with the response you had from the doctor. However, in your point numbered 4) I would have been more specific and enquired of the doctor if he ....."would kindly inform you should there be an emergency, diagnostic tests required, referral to a specialist or admission to hospital"..... if your request is deemed acceptable then that covers you regarding being informed of a more detailed or serious case scenario.
With regard to your point numbered 4), I can understand that it may not be practical for the doctor to keep you informed of visits to the surgery as visits by children can be quite frequent and the minor problem easily managed by the G.P..
Can you re-write your letter thanking them for their response and ask if they would kindly include the re-written point numbered 4)? If accepted by the doctor you have covered yourself regarding everything else that may be of greater concern.
Of course as a father you want to know everything there is to know about your child but unfortunately, in reality when parents separate and communication is poor between the parents, it is inevitable there is a "loss" to suffer. In this case your "loss" may be that you are not told of the minor illnesses but you will be informed if a medical situation is such that it goes beyond what is deemed minor if the content of your point numbered 4) is re-written and your request accepted.
I don't know if you are aware but when a child is in your charge as in stipulated, for example, a Court Order, you can take the child to see your own doctor. Arriving a little earlier than the appointment time is appropriate as you have to fill out a Temporary Residence Form before seeing the doctor, it only takes a two or three minutes to complete.
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