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Ive been house husband for 15 years to my two boys. Last year I was knocked off my bicycle and suffered open fractures on my right leg and quadruple ligament detachment on my left knee along with nerve damage. Also a head injury which has left me unable to deal with complicated situations.
4 days after this accident my wife decided to divorce me and dropped papers in my rucksack then texted me to say they were there. I was under a morphine pump and other super strength painkillers. I am suffering PTSD from the accident and receiving counselling for this
So all pretty rubbish. We have the nisi and are currently trying mediation but i can't keep up with the negotiations at all.
Im unable to work due to my injuries and not actually been in work for 15 years!
Not sure what im asking but can i have someone speak for me either in these meetings or court?
My ex is a corporate communications director of a huge institution and is revelling in the fact I can't think fast. Shes running rings round the mediators and they come out of the meeting exhausted. So imagine how i feel. I don't want to stop these meeting as I don't want the kids to be with her and neither do they but she is their mum and I don't have aproblem with her seeing them but I don't want them to be brought up by someone they only saw 6 times a month for the last 16 years!
Sorry if this is rambling but my heads so confused
Hi there
I'm really sorry to hear about your accident and how much it has impacted on your life.
I think your issues are too complex for a quick answer here, and it's probably wise to change your username to something much more anonymous...this would have to be done by Admin, let me know what you want to do about it.
From what you say, mediation is being used to agree child arrangements, is that right? May I also ask how old your children are, as this will have a bearing on the situation.
Have you remained in the marital home and are the children still with you? Again these points are important to help determine what you might expect moving forward.
Because of your condition (PTSD) I'm fairly confident you can ask for someone to accompany you in court and speak for you, that could be a family member or friend, a solicitor or, less costly, a McKenzie Friend.
Speak to the mediator and ask what the procedure is to have someone in the meetings with you, as you are finding it too difficult to cope on your own, you can also say that you can provide proof that you are receiving counselling for stress...If you have to go to court, you would need to write to the court and explain your condition, again offering to supply the court with evidence of your condition and the treatment you're receiving.
As you've been a house husband for the past 15 years, which allowed your ex to further her career, I do hope that this has been recognised in the divorce settlement, although I don't know a great deal about the divorce side of things.
If you have any further questions please don't hesitate to ask.
All the best
interesting debate, can the official solicitor act when you are not capable......if you are not capable ? could you look after children?
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