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Hey All,
Well, i'm feeling a little better. Wanted to share something I saw today.
I had my assessment appointment with the mediator today whom I thought was really quite good. As we'd already researched and spoken on this forum we kind of knew most of the answers to the questions we had and the answers to the questions that the mediator wanted to know.
I also qualified for legal aid, which, to me was a huge relief as I wasn't sure this could happen just based on a financial basis.
The interesting part was that I produced and email and several text messages sent from my ex stating that she did not want to go down the mediation route. Categorically . Which judging by the look and body language of the mediator can only have been a good thing for me.
The mediator said that she was going to write to my ex and exlain what was going to happen and that although mediation was a voluntary thing that I would be perusing her through the court.
Here was the interesting part, I asked in the letter how come she wouldn't write that I simply " had the right " to go to court instead of saying that i "would" take her to court? As this was in my mind an assumption made.
]Her answer was that she was being realistic and that court would be the next step (of course I'm going to court if I need to).
I'm naturally sad that I've had to take this action, but, someone on here once quoted as saying "You can't reason with the unreasonable" and this saying is the standard new response to almost everything in our house since!
Guys (and Ma) just wanted to say a huge thank you so far for all the support. If it wasn't for this website forum, I can guarantee I would have lost my child.
I know not all womens are like the ones we seem to have and I know mens can also be as bad as the womens too. I do sometimes feel ashamed to be apart of the human race... Some of US are genuine yet we loose out.
Im really glad that you are feeling better and making in roads via mediation.
You will always get support, advice and guidance here.
Regards,
Dave
Although, all the above being said, She's as up and down as they come really......
She is sticking by her idea that she is not doing mediation and that they can "throw her in jail" (Direct quote)... I advised her to look up online what mediation actually was.... She refuses. She now wants me to take her direct to court..... I'm sure this mood of hers will change again and again and again...!
Watch this space I guess..
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