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Does anybody have any experience of a ParentPlan having proven successful though mediation?
I like the idea of one of these ParentPlans as I think it sets in stone expectations & you reach agreement & both sign off on it. sounds ideal.
My ex won't even talk let alone consider this but it's an avenue I was thinking of suggesting in mediation (yet to start). I've read of people reaching agreement through mediation & then have that legalised which also sounds ideal.
Anyone with thoughts on this?
Hi and welcome
Parenting Plans can be an excellent way to move forward, I think the first step is to see if your ex will attend the mediation.
If she attends and you manage to agree, you can apply to formalise the agreement. If she refuses to attend or reach agreement, your only other option is a court application. Do try to avoid court if you can as it often makes things worse between parents and you can end up with a decision that doesn't suit anyone.
It sounds like you are open minded about the purpose of mediation and that's great, it's good to have a read through some parenting plans before attending and make notes of what you would like to happen with contact and decisions for your child as it will save time when you attend the sessions.
Good luck 🙂
Here's a link to the sticky where you will find information and a template for the CAFCASS parenting plan.
http://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/38959-cafcass-parenting-plan
Good luck
Hi, I would definitely look at Parenting Pan, Cafcass asked me to do one even though ex wasn't interested, helped me, don't just stick to one idea of what you want, I ended up putting three different options for contact, remember when you do one its not about the best option for you and ex, its got to be completely child centered.
Greyling - can you expand or provide examples for what you meant for 3 different options for contact? Do you mean literally contact options between the 2 of you or do you mean contact in terms of your flexibility for seeing your child?
I'm really after getting what was a very functioning arrangement restored (& potentially legalised). There were no issues & it worked.
My arrangement was alternate weekends - I'd collect after work on Friday & drop off Sunday evening before bedtime.
Would you recommend having an alternative arrangement or perhaps an initial arrangement of possibly for example Sat morning pickup & Sun evening drop off to ease our daughter back into shared contact?
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