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on April 2 my contact application was dismissed by the judge because she said it could have a detrimental affect on the child if the proceedings continued and she can't force my Ex to like me. But strongly recommended that me and my ex meet on occasions and build on a civil relationship out of hope that i be reunited with my son. The problem i am faced with is that when i was in court on April 2nd me and my ex chatted civil with each other after 7 years not speaking. And Ive since sent my son an Easter egg and card. Which i got a reply with a thank you card from my son and some photos of him. The thing is i recently wrote to my ex apologising for ever starting court proceedings in the first place. But before that I lodged a panic last minute appeal on the last day of the 21 days, and this morning Ive got the appeal date which is 10 days away. I lodged the appeal because i don't trust my ex and i didn't think she would make the positive effort shes made. This situation is not good because it could start the animosity all over again. But at the same time a part of me is thinking that my ex could have made the effort to avoid me appealing.
Hi Jasey
Did your ex reply to your letter about wishing you hadn't started court proceedings? Has she made any effort towards further indirect contact, or any suggestions about moving things forward? Will she even be included in the appeal at this stage? I would imagine that it would just be you until your appeal is successful. If that happens then the case would reopen and she would again be involved... I don't have any experience of appeals though.
If she has been informed you could write her again and explain that you had applied to appeal before she made the contact with you at Easter. Tell her how happy you were that she had made the effort and ask her if that was a one off or perhaps the beginning of getting more contact established.
NJ Thanks for reply,
No not yet a letter response from my Ex which I posted to her on 30th April. Having looked at the appeal court letter again it says it is ordered that the father's application for permission to appeal against the previous order dated 2 April is listed for hearing 27th may with a time estimate 2 hours to include 1 hour judicial reading time. so it looks it like it may mean that i go alone on the 27th may. But would be good to know 100%. Very good points NJ lots of food for thought Thank you.
Heya Jasey,
something might have been in the water. What you are doing is only wanting to progress matters. If you can demonstrate reasonableness then I really hope the judge will be a little more open an non-judgemental.
Have you considered a Mackenzie friend?
Clearly if matters progress before then - you can always adjourn on the basis you are trying to amicably resolve things, but you have the court as a back up.
BW
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