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Hi all,
new to this site. Just started with mediation. I *think* my ex will partake. Just did the MIAM today. Here is what the mediator lady either implied or said:
- court decisions seem to be unpredictable, random and dependant on the judge
- getting to look after your kids every second week, despite no reason why not, is often judged "disruptive" for the kids
Can anybody with any experience give me any advice regarding what to do/say/avoid etc to maximise my chances of getting to be a parent to my kids every second week? Pre-lockdown I was only parenting them for 24 hours each weekend with no real routine in place.
Excuse the vague question!
Thanks,
M
hi,
i was seeing my children for much less. just every saturday for the day. ex refused any overnights. so i went to court. and they let me have kids every other weekend, fri-sun, and a few hours, every other wednesday. Got more time from court recently.
So I don't see why you can not have the same. say to the mediator that you are no less important than the mother, so you should be spending more time with your children, just like she is.
Thanks, Bill!
So did you get 2 nights in 14 (over the weekend), and then go back to court later and get more nights?
What contact you would get depends on age of children. You wasn't having them much before which may go against you. It maybe you will end up getting less contact than hoped and then returning to family court a year or 2 later to get more contact. If you think your ex may be willing to talk to you about it that would help also as supposed to her raising allegations to try and disrupt contact.
Thanks, Bill!
So did you get 2 nights in 14 (over the weekend), and then go back to court later and get more nights?
yes. almost a year passed and i returned. ex started messing around with court order. breaking rules and making her own rules. (was waiting for her to screw up, so i had good excuse to return and get more time :p ) told me i have to appoint a solicitor and use to contact her, to arrange me to spend more time with baby daughter. she already agreed to do this in court lol. so i said no thanks, i am returning to court.
got more time. fri- mon morning and mon-tue overnight every other week. school holidays shared out.
Sorry for the stupid question, Bill, but what evidence did you use to prove that the court order decision had been disregarded?
hi,
i was never asked to submit any actual evidence. in my statements i just wrote what happened. my ex gave a tonne of whatsapp messages to cafcass, including a recording of them arguing with police. all that made her look stupid.
Sorry for the stupid question, Bill, but what evidence did you use to prove that the court order decision had been disregarded?
Not a stupid question at all π
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