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Hi,
I hope somone is able to help.
I've only recently separated from my wife and felt it was most appropriate for me to move out.
We have 2 kids (9 & 7) and I was the primary carer from Monday evening to Thursday evening, as my wife worked away.I proposed that we lead seperate lives but stay in the house, just whilst we sort out our affairs and most importantly to look ensure kids had stability.
My wife declined this offer and said she would take the week off work/work from home, whilst she sopted out alternative arrangements. But I have since discovered that she has gone to work and arranged for my children to be picked up from school and stay at friends houses Tues - Thur indefinitely.
The house is in my wife's name and she is the major financial provider. Although I did school runs, children's activities, cooked 7 days a week, homework, food shopping and contributed what I could to household bills and home improvements.
All whilst still juggling a full time job.I'm now thinking I should return to the marital home, if only to ensure some stability/normality for my children.
However, I don't think my wife will agree to it. Should I accept this or can I just move back in to the marital home? Ultimately, I don't think my children should be away from a parent for long periods of time.
I wouldn't want to leave under the same roof as her for too long, but bearing in mind she works away and it's a big house, I'm prepared to it for the sake of the kids. Just until we can agree on a seperation agreement and parent plan. Once this has been negotiated/agreed then I would look to find a suitable rental home and commence with shared parenting on a 50:50 basis.
Any advise would be greatly appreciated
It's a difficult one to advise on, as the property is solely in your wife's name, I'm not sure of your legal position to return once you had left. Ideally you should have remained at the property and tried to reach some agreement on financial and child plans first. You would have had more leverage as the primary carer of your children.
I think that you need to seek some legal advice on your position and what your options may be, now that you are no longer living there.
Best of luck
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