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Just wanna say a big thankyou to everybody that helped me here 5/6 months ago. Things have moved forward, i have PR and see my son once a week for an hour. He knows who i am too. Next hearing is the mid October. I am also doing a Parenting Course subject to the court order.
I know contact usually goes from supervised (which is what i currently get) to supported and then to handovers but with the parenting course the contact people want me to have 2 hours a week. I cannot afford all this, i also pay my ex 60 quid every two weeks to support my son.
The contact sessions are going really good, reports are good. How can the judge help me if i say i cant afford 2 hours a week? Cos i also pay for the parenting course. I want my son weekends. But the contact centre told me that they do supported contact and its cheaper. What do you reckon will happen? He's just over 1 years old, i love him very much and wanna go places with him soon. Hes my only son and its also gonna be fun doing things i wouldnt do without a child, like going to theme parks, kids places etc...seeing all the weird parents like me. lol.
The mum wants me to see him at the moment and even dresses him in what i buy him for contact. Also, i have PR but, is that the same as being on the birth certificate? She registered him without me, should i remind the court of this? Or is PR enough? Ive had dna and he is my son, looks like me too, lucky kid..
Again many thanks, im still not 100%, but alot better, thanks in part, to this forum.
Is your ex in favour of supported contact? If so, I would have thought that if you continue as you are until the court hearing (which is only about 3 weeks away), then I would hope that the court would approve supported contact as everyone would be in favour of this.
Hopefully others will be along to offer more experience of this.
Hi There,
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I think that if you have PR, then you wouldn't need to be on the birth cert other than just to have it registerd, you could raise this in court if you are concerned.
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GTTS
Hi
If you haven't already been ordered to provide a Position Statement or Witness Statement for the next hearing, you could write a short Position Statement to take with you on the day explaining how well things have been progressing and suggest that contact now moves to supported sessions of 1.5 then 2 hours per week for 4-6 weeks and then moves in to the community unsupervised beginning for 2 hours and increasing to 6-8 hours over a 12-16 week period.
Mention the mother is appearing amicable and you are hopeful this is a good progression. You can take copies of the CC reports with you and ask in the PS for permission to file these with the court on the day.
If the mother agrees to the move to supported then this will likely go ahead. If she doesn't and the court feel it should go that way, they can try to get her to agree. It's all sounding positive though.
I would mention in person the cost restraints of increasing the hours if contact remains supervised rather than detailing this in your PS. The courts are usually realistic and sympathetic in respect of CC costs. They're not cheap!
In respect of being given PR, this gives you the same rights as being on a Birth Certificate.
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