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Hi,
in 2016 august 16 my wife called the children services and made a false complaint about me that I'm trying to kill them by chasing after them with a knife. and police was involved with this and when I came back from work police arrested me.
I was released on police bail and the bail conditions were that I can't contact them or return home, so I was living with my brother. and my wife told to the children I have gone with another woman,
I tried to keep in contact with my kids sending money clothes gifts ect. and she refuse it even my kids been brainwashed by her.so I keep quite and I get updates from my friends that they are keeping well.
since couple of months she has stopped the communication with my friends.
so now I don't have any connection to them.
so now I need to get a legal way to get the access to my kids.
please help me regarding this
thanks
Hi there
What has happened concerning the alleged offence, are you still on bail, or has it been resolved?
Your first step would normally be to try mediation, but if there’s still a case of Domestic violence open, mediation wouldn’t be appropriate.
If your case was closed with no further action, you can ask the mediator to contact her and see if she would be willing to mediate an agreement on contact. Here’s a link
www.nfm.org.uk
If she refuses, or the mediator doesn’t think mediation is appropriate, they will sign the form to enable you to apply to court for a Child Arrangements Order.
You can use a solicitor, or you can apply without one. Solicitors charge a lot of money, many of our members have gone through court without legal representation with much success.
All the best
hi
thanks for the reply.
she withdraw the case because she don't have any evidence, so the police told me that I don't need to come to the police station to sign every 2 weeks but it dosen't say that I can contact them
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I would think that since the bail conditions were the only thing that said you couldn't contact your children, then that condition no longer applies. However, I would be extremely cautious in doing so as you don't want to give her any reason to make the court think that there was something in the allegations, so I would suggest that your next step is mediation to see where thay goes.
thank you
how can I find a mediator to contact them as I don't have their address.
thanks
I would try this - www.nfm.org.uk - I'm not sure whether a mediator can use a C4 (Seek and Find application form), but NFM will certainly be able to tell you this.
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