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Hi,
I was wondering if anyone could give me any advice, perhaps from their own experience.
It may sound extreme to some, but it's got to a point with my ex, that for my own health, a non molestation order against her is the only route forward.
However, there is the issue that she is the mother of my child, who I see regularly. In an ideal world, I need to find a way to get the non mol but have an avenue for only essential information to be passed back and forth when necessary. For example, I have a health condition, and have to give my ex notice if I'm too unwell to have child contact - in this instance, we would need to be able to communicate with each other.
I have suggested to my solicitor making an exception in the non mol that allows communication only through the use of a family planner like ourfamilywizzard.com which also logs everything as evidence should she start abusing it, which my solicitor had not come across before - I'm waiting to hear her thoughts on this, but wondered if anyone had been in a similar position, and how they dealt with it? The more ideas we can throw at the court the better, I guess.
Cheers.
Hi there
Ive not had experience of family wizzard either, but its quite acceptable for there to be specified conditions attached to a non mol to allow for communication about child contact, this can be via email or text, or through a third party.
Thanks, that's good to know. My solicitor felt that it went against the purpose of a non mol, and is happy to go apply for a non mol, but feels it's got to be all or nothing. I can see what she's saying, but feel a non mol is important to me, and obviously some contact needs to be kept open. I just heard back from her after sending her the our family wizzard link, which she hadn't heard of either. Will speak to her on Monday to see if we can get a clear route forward with it all.
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