[Solved] Lunchtime

Hi

Have you asked your ex why she is giving her lunch at home only on the days you pick her up from school? Could it be that as you are picking her up from school she is taking her home to make sure she has a decent good lunch knowing she will be busy after school and to make sure she will have all the things she needs for her afternoon /evening with you.
Sorry for playing devils advocate here but sometimes its not all for bad reasons.
Is your daughter generally happy and excited to see you when you pick her up? If she is then it may not be a negative thing that she is having lunch at home on those days. If she is unhappy when you pick her up then perhaps its worth asking the school to keep an eye on her on the days you pick her up and ask her teacher if she has said anything out of the ordinary in the afternoon.

I am concerned as mother was against me collecting from school in first place however order dictates that I do so.
Daughter has now started saying that contact is boring, despite having a wonderful time and she is not as excited as she used to be to see me when I collect her from school.

I am concerned that this is the root to serious problems in the future.

I understand you are playing devils advocate - however on the other hand if she is fed negative points about me or about contact shortly prior to me collecting her for contact then she may become reluctant to come for contact altogether. Wishes and feelings?????

I am very concerned about this and would like some guidance from everyone please.

What would a judge say about this?

Hey Graff

How old is your daughter? And what do you do when you meet up?

It may be worth finding an interest you can share that she picks so she can then look forward to your time together.

Yes you ex may well be sowing negative thoughts but this is your time and you need to make the most of it and not worry about your ex. As for a judge it will probably be your word against hers and i am not sure you should bother.

Remember it is about your daughter.

Just a thought this helped me with my daughter when i thought things were being said before contact with me.
I used to take her to a friends house who had children of a similar age after a while my daughter started to talk to my friend about what had been said as she felt comfortable doing so and it helped enormously also my daughter enjoyed the contact as she got to spend time with me and got to spend time with other children of her age that she wouldnt normally have contact with.
Or could you use your after school contact to go and have tea with extended family on a regular basis so giving your daughter something extra to look forward to.
I read your previous posts and it sounds like youve had a rough ride of things and i know how that feels, i really hope it settles down soon and contact with your daughter becomes much easier for both of you.