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hey everyone, i just joined as i have visited the site a few times and the vast amount of help and knowledge here is awesome
anyways i have a situation that if anyone could advise or have similar dealings would be great
i met my partner 7 years ago while still living with my ex partner and 3 children (dont judge me it was for financial reasons)
my new partner knew where i lived and was fine with it
anyways after many years of a rocky ride she fell pregnant and we had a little boy, she would never allow my details to go on his birth certificate and would say things like "you should give me more money" and "your a bad father"
anyways i would see her and the child regularly and then a few weeks back she started a huge row because i wouldn't give her 400 pounds to buy a ring made of her dead mums ashes!!
she was screaming at me and calling me all sorts of names so i just grabbed my keys and left
she then made it incredibly difficult for me to see my son and i had just started CBT therapy for anxiety and pain management due to a serious car accident leaving me with nerve damage
we went out 2 weeks ago and she was kissing me saying she wanted to be a family, the following day she hadn't contacted me at all so i drove past her brothers house late where she was supposed to be staying and her car was missing so fearing the worst i rang her to ask where she was. she said she was at home and i knew this was a lie. turns out she was on a date with another guy
we then went to the park the next day and she started screaming at me blaming me for all the bad things that ever happened in the relationship. as we left the park she was still being abusive and i asked when i could see my son and she said she would let me know....i had no further contact with her and she served me with a non molestation order without notice...nutcase or what!!
so i have to attend next week, they have asked for any sworn evidence to be supplied so i have made a statement of truth, a statement addressing her false allegations saying i was stalking her
se even said that the night i drove past her brothers house she was so scared to come home because i would hurt her....she then met me the next day over the park and put that in her statement lol
i have provided character witness statements and i also record all my calls on my mobile so i have supplied all recorded calls showing no aggression or violence at all towards her
the non mol says i cant go anywhere near her or any contact but says absolute nothing about my son
i have filed a c1 form and a c100 along with a c2 asking for permission because i have a non mol order
ive made absolute no contact with her but now starting to miss my son as she has never allowed me to have him on my own
she did last year fill out the form to have my details added to the birth certificate but she never posted it....i have supplied pictures of the forms completed 🙂
sorry for the ramble but just missing my son 🙁
Hi There,
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By the sounds of things you are on the right track, not making any contact and filling the correct forms to court, I know it's tough to go without seeing your children, but to do things the right way will help in the long run.
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It sounds as though she has shot herself in the foot already with her statement by saying she was scared of you and then meeting you so hopefully the judge will see straight through her lies.
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GTTS
Do you mean you were served with a notice to attend a non-molestation order application hearing ?
Or is there an actual non molestation order already served by the court ?
Either way you are correct in stopping contact with her and letting the system deal with it. I just wish we had a better system 🙂
the non molestation has been made without notice to me so i now have to attend a hearing next week
had confirmation today that the court and her caseworker have received my paperwork. I telephoned her caseworker and have emailed her asking for contact with my son outlining the arrangements i would like
waiting game now :/
well tomorrow is the hearing where i answer to the non mol....little bit nervous but im going to ask for a temporary contact order but would that be difficult not having pr even though ive filed a form for it?
have this weird idea that the court may deal with all that tomorrow which would be great
When I had my non-mil hearing the court refused to discuss contact on the basis that I had not made an application, but I got the impression that had I made an application then, they would have discussed it.
The trick is getting yourself heard during the audience.
i can safely say i dont have a problem with confidence or making myself heard lol
i have applied last week with c1 and c100 forms so maybe it might swing it in my favour
Good luck for tomorrow mavic
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