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I'm looking for advise on how to deal with my ex. She is a wonderful mother when need be, it just seems like she no longer cares. Our divorce decree stated I would get our son three nights a week and she would have him four well it quickly went to me having him four and her having him three. This changed and I had him five to her two now it's 6-1 or even a whole week with me no complaints on my end to be honest I just am worried about my sons future I don't want him to think that his mother is neglecting him. I'm just having a hard time comprohending her current lifestyle. If anyone could shed some light on this I would appreciate it.
Hi there
It can be difficult when a mother goes off the rails and puts her own wants above that of her child, thank goodness he has you to care for him day to day. How old is he?
Have you tried talking to her? She may be in denial about the impact her absence might have on your child.
I think the best way to handle this is to give him lots of reassurance and love, which I'm sure you do. Children are far more resilient than we think and I'm sure that your little boy will get through this with your help.
Without more information it's difficult to give further advice, but if this situation continues long term, or has been going on for some time, you might like to think about getting his position as living with you secure...as it stands, she can whisk him away and there wouldn't be a lot you could do about it. It would require a court order to prevent that from happening.
My grandson lives with his Dad and has done since he was three, he's nine now and a very happy and well adjusted child. His contact with his mum has been sporadic and at the moment he sees her once a week after school on Thursday and the very occasional sleepover on a Saturday night, but it's his choice...she too put her partying life above that of her children. He has an older half sister, who stayed with her and she is now struggling at school and has emotional problems. I think it's better to remove a child from that kind of situation and my grandson and his sister seem to be proof of that.
All the best
Hi There,
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I agree with Mojo, I would look at getting a residency order in place, so that you can feel secure and know that as Moo say's your ex can't just decide to take your son back to live with her, as things stand, with the current order you would go back to the 3 nights per week.
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If you do go down this route then ensure that when applying you set out a schedule of contact for your ex, the court can't enforce that she sticks too it, but by addressing this in the application you are showing the court that you aren't trying to cut mum out, but actually trying to give your son some stability to know where he will be living.
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GTTS
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