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Hello,
I am in a desperate situation and I am looking for somebody to help. I cannot give too much information here, for legal reasons, but enough is to say that my children are in trouble. I am abroad, for some time, but my children are in England. I have called several of those children/help/victims/human rights agencies and that is one of the problems where I need help: they will not talk to me (they all respond as on my item 1 below) and they say it is because I am abroad, that is why I need help from an independent person or even body.
I need:
1- Somebody who is sympathetic and does not judge me for being a father against a mother, on the basis of my foreign origin and being against the English courts.
2- Help me talk to agencies that deal with Human Rights, legal bodies and children. The problem with them is that I get a response as on 1, it gives a blow to my morale and prevents me from trying again.
3- The target is going back to the courts but I need to explain to a volunteer, so that he/she then relays the information to the people on 2, without being nasty to me.
4- My children's welfare is the real concern, I will give the details to the person who helps me.
5- The English courts caused me serious financial damage but I am able to pay some money to the volunteer. One of the things where I need help is in getting financial help for my legal costs in England.
Contact me if you know someone who can help.
Thank you.
Hi there
Unfortunately, living outside the uk means that you will be unable to access the various agencies, most stipulate that you must be resident in the U.K.
You can instruct a solicitor to act on your behalf, by giving them power of attorney, but as you note, this will come at a cost.
You could try contacting Reunite, they are experienced with helping families where one party lives abroad. Here's a link
www.reunite.org.uk
I doubt you will find a volunteer, most people that come here are struggling with their own problems, but I wish you the best of luck.
Do not speak for other people. I once found a volunteer in a previous matter.
Are you saying you know that the whole population of the UK "has got their own problems to volunteer help?" Do you not know that even McKenzie friends are likely to be told to provide their services free of charge?
I have also helped others when I had my own problems
Hi There,
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Mojo hasn't spoken for any one else, Mojo has simply said "I doubt you will will find a volenteer on this site" and I tend to agree, nost of our members come here for help, and have issues of thier own.
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No one is saying you won't find someone that will help you, but we do know that the members of this forum are here as they are in distress and require help them selves so to offer to help another member in the way that you would require would be adding to the stress that they are under.
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GTTS
I don't understand your anger at my reply, I was giving you a reason why our forum members might not be responding to you, as GTTS has also pointed out, they come here struggling and need help themselves. I was speaking for myself and gave you advice about contacting Reunite and a link to do so. They are very experienced in helping with cross border problems concerning children.
I think the fact that no members having come forward to volunteer speaks for itself. In all honesty, getting angry with people that are giving you advice isn't a good way to encourage others to help you.
I don't know of any McKenzie Friends that offer their services free of charge, or that anyone can order them to do so, that's not to say they don't exist and if you know of any perhaps you can share that information with us.
I spend many hours advising and supporting forum members, I ask nothing in return except that we all treat each other with respect. I hope you find what you are looking for.
I tend to agree with GTTS, in that Mojo was simply advising you that it is unlikely you will find a volunteer on this forum, due to it being primarily for people to come to with their own worries (including me!). That's not to say someone would not contact you if they thought they may be able to help, but that it may be unlikely.
Mojo did kindly offer you a useful contact though, which hopefully will be of some help.
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