[Solved] Letter to judge

H there

Was the hearing you missed after you were served with the non mol order?

I would address your letter of apology directly to the judge that was sitting at the hearing you missed.

I'm not sure that being in a bad place would be enough of a reason, most people that have been accused of something are in a bad place, but you can certainly try. Go into some detail, but don't go over the top with it...you can explain that you were in denial and didn't think your ex would carry it through. Explain that since the death of your daughter you haven't been coping very well at all, but you realise that ignoring things in the hope that they will go away, only makes them worse. Offer sincere apologies and say something like... I respectfully ask if there is any way that the hearing that I missed can be rescheduled so that I may answer the baseless allegations made against me.

All the best

I agree with Mojo that it is worth writing to the court asap and mention everything that Mojo has said.

I don't think people sometimes understand the grave nature of court applications , and whilst ignorance is not an excuse, I do think you could add that you didn't fully comprehend what was expected of you.

Don't submit a load of evidence at this stage but do mention that you have it.

Good luck

The non mol hasnt actually been served to me yet they sent it bye txt to my brothers fone thats all no body has approached me with anything yet.. and i took my letter this morning direct to the district judge at 8:45am so im just waiting now fingers crossed till i hear something from them.. how long will it take before they get intouch with me about all this ???? Cheers for everybodys help on here its been so helpfull and interesting reading about others who in same position or worse

Any news yet?

All courts do things differently so it's difficult for us to predict when you will hear something. Hopefully it will be soon!

Still not her anything from courts and i am on edge everytime postman comes just want answer now so i can try get something sorted . How will i find out anything about the non mol order cos ive only had txt to frienďs fone ??

What is a mckenzie friend exactly pls how do thet work?? My ex & me have the same fones and when she sent rest of my stuff from the house she put her fone init BONUS and ive just read txt messsges to her friends saying No Darren never taised his hands to me but his past records with police for violence is bad so who they goin to beleive me or him . They always go with woman so ill stick with my story you dtick with what i said to say ?? What should i do with this evidence ?? Im fuvking fuming cos ive been trying to clrear my name cos it all lies and now this???

A McKenzies friend is someone who can help you out and go into court with you (with the courts permission) but can't speak in court. Mojo and Yoda are probably best placed to give you more information on the ins and outs, but it's a massive amount cheaper than a solicitor.

Yes the letter of apooligy to judge went well and he seen me yesterday in court and me & Ex both got do statements & something called scothed eggs ??? Dnt no what it was but thats the words he used but he gave me supervised visits but ive got to arrange it.. how do i do this pls help and thank you so much for advising me on the letter meant alot means the world actually

The letter of apoligy to judge went really well i was in court yesterday and he gave me supervised visits till court over with. How do i sort supervised visits at contact centre out pls help and thank you for advise about letter to judge means everything to me

Thats a step in the right direction, I'm glad the letter helped.

You must make sure you get your statement and Scott Schedule in on time though.

A Scott Schedule is a table used to help the court see clearly what allegations are being made and what the response is to each allegation. So you'll wait to receive the Scott Schedule from her, with her list of allegations and you can then reply to them.

Here's a link to the contact centres website, theres a helpline number that you can call and you can use the website to search for a centre in your area.

www.naccc.org.uk

It might be helpful if you attended a Families Need Fathers meeting, hopefully there's one near where you live. Here's a link to their website where you'll find details of all the meetings nationally.

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

All the best

Here's a link to some templates for a Scott Schedule and statement

http://www.nofamilylawyer.co.uk/useful-documents.html