[Solved] Letter to an alienated child?

Thank you so much for the kind words and suggestions. It means an awful lot when someone (not directly involved) says you have done all you can, as without that reassurance, we tend to keep questioning ourselves. Thankfully we have kept copies of most of the stuff we have sent and my husband has created a folder of memories for them both.

His contact went ahead as planned and he gave them the letter. Something seemed to sink in with the letter, mostly with the eldest - but when he asked if they have any questions about why he wasn't there for four years they didn't seem bothered and said no, like they don't actually care. It's all very strange. Either way, there seemed to be no adverse effects and they had a nice day. They did not take the letter with them though.

The most disturbing thing was that the eldest could not even recall the upsetting emails they had supposedly sent a few days prior to the contact, regarding changing their surname. They were completely perplexed. Also my husband asked the children about his most recent email and whether they liked the picture he had attached and again, they were unaware of what he was talking about...we have always thought that possibily emails are not passed on and replies may not even be their own, but this seems to confirm our thoughts. I find this quite alarming and honestly think she has mental health problems. Yet again, there is nothing we can do, it seems.

He asked them about Skype (as per the mothers orders - that he can discuss it with them, not her) and they said they would email twice a week instead. However, his latest email has been ignored again. How does he communicate with the mother that they have agreed to email twice a week, but also she still needs to continue to encourage skype, when she has said to not contact her? We can't afford to involve solicitors and getting them to write her a letter would be like throwing money down the drain. Now the case is closed, she has no representation that he can go through either. I wonder if it would be possible for my husband to write to the judge who made the order, explain that the indirect contact simply is not taking place as agreed and she has told him to refrain from contacting her - making him unable to even attempt a reasonable discussion. Also the order states that he needs to contact her to rearrange weekly skype should he be working at the usual agreed time - which he now cant even do. Could the judge write to her reminding her that the court order needs to be ahered to and communication needs to take place? Or is this generally not something judges do?